Do your kids remember your Wedding Anniversary? Do you expect them to?

Kids, not a hope in hell, even I have problems remembering, thank goodness for Google Calendar.

We had our 25th last year and also my 60th birthday. We had moved to France in 2015 and if we were still in the UK we would have thrown a party. Neither of the children were interested in the anniversary and DD said that she thought that wedding anniversaries were private to the couple (my DH is their stepdad). I did get a lovely pair of earrings from them and their families though, for my birthday. I always sent a card to my parents while my DF was alive for their anniversary and my DM sends a card to us.

1st Anniversary we had cards from all family (3rd Marriage for me 2nd for DH). After that we didn't even bother with cards but would often have a meal out, as it was August we were quite often on Holiday. Sadly we didn't get to our Silver Wedding Anniversary which we would have Celebrated - only managed nearly 22 years before DH died from Cancer, I do remember ever year look back on all the good times

Parents celebrated their Silver Wedding Anniversary, I bought them a lovely large silver tray which I now have although DM is still alive. DF died only 2 years after their 25th.

Can't forget DD's - it was DH's 69th Birthday

DD and 2 DS's always remember and send cards and DS2 has never been married so we are mega impressed with him! I always send cards to DS1 and DDIL and used to send to DD until she got divorced!IMHO I think it is a kind and considerate gesture.

I don't think my offspring have any idea when it was. We had two dates, civil ceremony abroad which was enough for us but my parents dragged us back for a church wedding a month later. By that time we both knew we had made a mistake but struggled on for forty years. Happy to say I never even notice either date myself.
I try always to acknowledge by DS and DD's anniversaries though and delight in their happiness.

My daughters don't really remember. Sometimes we might get a card but not always and usually I'm not too bothered but this year was our 40th and one daughter remembered and sent a card and arranged for flowers and the grandchildren bought us 40th mugs. But the other daughter felt a ' Happy Anniversary' the day before was enough.

To be honest I'm a little hurt by that. 40 years of anything is an achievement in anyone's books. And I always remember every birthday , anniversary and event and they would be the first to mention it if I didn't.

Maybe it was because it had been my 60th birthday a few weeks before and we threw a huge family party ( but if I hadn't arranged it I don't suppose anyone else would have bothered!)

I just think marriage seems to be so easy-come , easy- go these days that they see no value in longevity in marriage years. Sad !!

Yes and No. DCs remembered 25th because i reminded them. What saddened me hugely was that we got married from my home [DSisters got married overseas, parents not attending] but DPs never remembered our WA. DPs made a big fuss for 25th of both sisters but I didn't even get a phone call!
40th coming up this year. I shall remain mute, but hope that someone remembers...

I always remembered my Parents Wedding Anniversary, bought a card and a little bunch of flowers, nothing spectacular but wanted to thank them.
My children dont remember,and I wouldnt expect them to, in this Country people dont celebrate like that, unless it is a huge Anniversary.

Our daughter was born on our seventh anniversary so it is always remembered. However we don't make a thing of it by choice but she and her brother sent is on an Orient Express day for our fortieth and a surprise friends and family very posh afternoon tea - gold cakes !! and a cake replica of our first car for fiftieth. Hope we are still around for sixtieth !!

Although children weren't ( usually anyway!) at our weddings i think that if two people have weathered the years their children could acknowledge the fact because as they are finding out themselves it is not always easy keeping a long relationship going.
One daughter always sends a card, the other doesn't send anniversary, or any other card neither birthday nor Christmas, and this year after accepting our gifts told us she had contributed money on our behalf to her favourite charity! Considering asking her if this is to continue next year then i would prefer for her donation in my name to be made to my favourite charity. Note to self....
Certainly think big anniversaries should be acknowledged in a big way. Congrats nanaandgrampy on your 40 th, its our 48 this year. We all deserve a medal.

Recently had our Pearl, and no, just a card to each other and customary flowers from him to me.
Three offspring never say or do anything to be involved, the ages range from 34 down to 21 so all capable.
Reading all the previous posts it seems it's all perfectly normal, and as ever if we want anything doing we get and do it for ourselves although they would be involved if requested, we are actually a happy family who come together at our house for Christmas and such like.

Our two don't & neither does DH! I send both children anniversary cards & also to my parents who have now been married nearly 70 years - they are both 90 this year. I will of course make sure children & DH remember our 40th anniversary which isn't far away, by use of very unsubtle reminders...

No just DH and myself, although one year we both completely forgot, only being reminded when a card unexpectedly arrived in the post from SIL, only time she's ever sent us one!

They don't send cards these days but they knew the date of our 25th as they organised a surprise gathering of family and friends for a sit-down meal at a hotel. We thought we were just going for a meal with our sons and my Mum, and were somewhat overwhelmed to be met by a roomful of people! It helped that elder son was working in said hotel at the time. Took a while to get over the shock but it was well worth it.

And congrats to you too Silverlining

No and I don't mark theirs either.

I cannot even remember our own anniversary, had to look at our wedding certificate last year, didn't celebrate it DH not interested.
Sent my DS and wife a 25th anniversary card only to be told it's this year, 2017.Got same response from my grandson, sent lovely 21st card to be told it's also this year, well anyone can make a mistake can't they? Son and wife have only been sending us birthday, mother's day and father's day cards these last couple of years! Maybe they see an inheretance coming there way.
We're going to spend the lot before the grim weeper, is that right? knock on our door.??

Our 49th tomorrow! Daughter will remember but probably won't get card. Our son won't remember even though we will be ringing him in Spain to wish them Happy Three Kings which is when they get their Christmas presents over there. I shall make sure they remember next year if we are that lucky.

Grim reaper ,got there in the end

My dh always remembers but I know its in September on the 23, 24, or 25 and have to ask him every year which it is. It is my second marriage and the children are from my first. They dont send any cards but they always send my husband a fathers day card and not their birth dad and I must say my daughter asked him to give her away at her wedding, which made his day.

Thanks n and g. ?

I always sent a gift and card to our parents and they to us. I also send cards to anyone I or DH were officiating at as groomsman, bridesmaid, best man etc. And our siblings - only 1 of whom is still married. But the kids don't mark it - my Daughter occasionally asks around the time if it's our anniversary soon - son doesn't acknowledge it at all - wouldn't know when it was. My DH sends a bouquet every year of red roses one for each year - has done since year 1 and as we are at 39 years it's got VERY expensive - we go out to dinner too, just the 2 of us. Couldn't forget my parents - it was Xmas Day - only day Dad could get leave in the war. He always felt that was limiting as they could never really celebrate their Anniversary and who wanted to go to a do on their big Anniversaries in the Christmas season?? I think that's why we children made a fuss ensuring they had seperate cards and presents and wrapping paper etc; at Christmas. I don't think marriage means as much these days.

we have the advantage [for who?] of having two WA. We were married in a country where the church wedding is only a blessing, so had to have a civil ceremony too! they took place on two separate days, so there is absolutely no excuse to forget, if one has two dates to -forget- remember!

Bummer. forget.

My parents always said a wedding anniversary should just be between the 2 people concerned and that me and my siblings were never to send cards or presents and we didn't. (though we did send them off on a trip to Lake Garda for their 40th Anniversary) Ive kept to the same adage with my children, lot of fuss about nothing IMO!