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Should I say anything?

(28 Posts)
vampirequeen Wed 04-Jan-17 13:17:22

Bite your tongue. It's the way they've chosen and there is no way you can mention it without appearing to criticise them.

fiorentina51 Wed 04-Jan-17 13:04:58

Hard as it is NannyMo I would be inclined to keep quiet. A few well meant words might eventually stir up a hornet's nest. Just be there in as supportive a role as you can be and be ready to pick up the pieces should the worst happen.
Good luck and I hope everything gets resolved happily.

NannyMo76 Wed 04-Jan-17 11:31:26

My DS has always been very good natured and is now married to a very dissatisfied girl. We try our best to help with finance and babysitting and on the surface have a good relationship with her. Their son Age 7 is a joy but their daughter who is 5 is manipulating when she is around her mother. Sleeps in her bed every night as she "loves mummy so much " Her brother tells me he never gets mummy to read him a bedtime story as his sister insists she should always be with her. He is not allowed into her bed unless he has a bad dream .my son now sleeps in the study on a futon so that his daughter can be with her mother . They appear on the surface to be okay as a couple but I worry for their relationship and for my granddaughter becoming even more entitled as she gets older. She is a good wee girl when she comes to us for the day and doesn't get away with dissolving into ;(fake) tears every time she is denied anything. My DIL can't seem to see that she is enabling this behaviour and I fear for their son and more importantly for their marriage.