"He is a very controlling person and she always has to do as he says."
And now he is trying to control you. You've capitulated to his control to a small extent, trying to regain his favour with your Christmas gift, and he responded with silence. This is intended to make you capitulate further. Do not be manipulated by him. If he is controlling, your daughter will probably be better off outside of this marriage. I would continue to support my daughter and make sure she knew that you are on her side. Do not allow him to isolate her from her parents.
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