Today 20:33 Motherof517
Hi, I know this site is for grandmothers only but it's the only place where I could think to ask to get a clearer view with everything please post your opinion in relation to this if you was in this situation as a grandparent please I'd greatly appreciate it.
Firstly my baby's father relationship and I was horrid we just never got along. Now I know he's lied to his mother with quite a bit and I understand as a mother you do everything to back your children 100% but deep down I know she knows the truth. He told his mother I told him that I cheated on him and that (during pregnancy) and that the baby wasn't his. I sent her several messages saying he's making a big mistake I'd never said that etc etc, though I never got a reply but she read my messages. When the baby was born I informed her that her granddaughter was here but as there was threat of serious violence baby's father and family was warned not to come to the property. However at a few weeks old she turned up at my door with a DNA test of her own despite the child maintenance service giving them the option through them which would have been accepted by them. The one she Beaufort round wasn't accepted. I asked at the door is that the one from cms she she yeah I said it's not because it's got to be done through the doctors so non of it can be forged, (pictures would be taken) she then proceeded to tell me it was I said where's the letter stating it's from them she shows me a form, no letter. She was lying for what reason il never know. But she was in the end told to go through the proper channels. As my children was behind me and seen and heard everything I had to inform police about this as I didn't want it to happen again. She was told to never come to my property again else she would be in trouble. So anyway fast forward a few months the DNA has been done and he is my child's father like I said all along. Understandable that she would have questioned it seen as its her son. I got messages from baby's father and girlfriend saying he doesn't want anything to do with my 'thing' they referred her too. Said they would shut the door on her face when she comes looking for answers when she's older. Now I'm not sure the grandmother knows about the DNA but I would have thought so, so instead of being bitter I've applied to mediation for my daughter to get to know her grandmother, I don't know if she will accept it she loves children and I have no doubt she could be a brilliant grandmother to my little girl, she deserves the right to know her wether her son doesn't. However my question is she's pretty much not said anything about the whole situation and just blanked my messages about my little girl (no responses) she's also a teacher so I don't know if this is because she knows at a later date her son will want to know her granddaughter or it's to save her jobs worth.
I've even said to the mediator if she didn't want her son to know absolutely it her seeing my daughter I'd respect that and keep it quiet to save arguments.
Am I doing the right thing?
Do you think she would want to know her granddaughter? Or do you think she would back her son and leave it up to him?
If it was you who was her grandmother what would you think abut it whole situation and would you want to know?
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