Really upset about this

Just to add DH had kidney issues prior to the heart operation and dialysis was on the cards for him possibly at some point.

I hope they manage him better than the previous hospital. At least they'll be on top of his fluid intake. (let's hope!)

Well this hospital is absolutely filthy. I keep cleaning around him.

I thought long and hard about the right approach to deal/complain about how dirty and complacent they were with cleaning

What I eventually did was I spoke to the cleaning guy, yes guy, doing the actual cleaning and explained to him in the most gentle voice I could muster that his job was an extremely important one and in many ways just as important as the Doctors job, as keeping germ/infections down saved lives.

He was taking it all with interest and then kind of gave a smile as if to say, yeah you know what, my job is important.

I can only hope this works because I am afraid to complain Because I'm not sure if it will do any good.

Anyways he has now had the Peritoneal fitted which is a pipe inserted into his near his belly button, it actually protrudes from his stomach and awaiting his first dose of dialysis today.

He was a bit shocked when he saw it as he and both I thought that it would b smaller, but its a fair size in length.

I just said, oh its fine the benefits of having it are going to be amazing, but to be honest I did feel bad for him

I've been following your thread and sympathise with you. However, I do think that it might be construed as patronising to speak as you did to the cleaner. He could well be highly educated and doing the job as a fill-in and even if he isn't I doubt he'd have been thrilled to be spoken to in this way. He will be part of a team of cleaning staff and won't be responsible directly for uncleanliness.

I think you'd be better emailing the hospital with your concerns.

Contact someone at the top. Cleaning around your own DH doesn't solve the problem for everyone else. It is the attitude of the cleaners' employers which will improve things.

The cleaner may work for a private firm but the sister is in charge of the ward and the welfare of her patients including the hygiene and cleanliness. Speak to the sister - if the ward is dirty that is simply not acceptable.

When I was in hospital last year I was really impressed at the attitude to cleaning. It must have come down from the top. A cheerful team seemed to scrub down every surface they could find!

Years ago when I was in hospital I remember being most impressed to see the ward sister and a staff nurse scrubbing down a bed frame and the mattress with great vigour and thoroughness. I said to another nurse 'my word, I am impressed with the cleanliness in here!' and she muttered 'MRSA'.

So please speak to the sister in charge of the ward Serkeen.

Yes perhaps you are right I should email the hospital about the cleanliness..

I ask the doctors a lot of questions because I feel responsible for my husbands wellbeing..do you think that this makes Doctors nervous about making mistakes and this is why we have been in hospital for so long, (three and a bit months?)

No, if there is someone at home to care for the patient they are glad to discharge them asap - provided their condition/medication etc is under control.

this is why we have been in hospital for so long
You're not staying all night too, are you when you say we?

I know I did when my young child was in but wouldn't for an adult.

I think it's entirely reasonable for you to ask the doctors questions. I'm sure they will send your husband home as soon as he is well enough.

It's a very long time to be in hospital and visiting must be really draining but hopefully it will end soon....Chin up!

No, Serkeen, the reason your husband has been in hospital for so long is because he needs to be there for the treatment he is getting. They would be delighted to have him well enough to go home.

Your questions won't make them nervous of making mistakes because they have had years of training and experience (unless you are an famous expert consultant who has been dealing with patients like your husband for the last forty years and you know far more than they do about it - I don't think you said that, did you?)

They have had training and experience in dealing with anxious relatives, too, so all your questions have been asked by someone else before you.

My daughter spent 13 weeks in hospital while they treated her and found solutions. We found the doctors/ consultants who were higher up the hierarchy were more willing to answer questions than foundation doctors who clearly were less confident and so a bit more defensive.

I ask the doctors a lot of questions because I feel responsible for my husbands wellbeing..do you think that this makes Doctors nervous about making mistakes and this is why we have been in hospital for so long, (three and a bit months?)

He obviously needs to be there or else they would be discharging him as soon as they possibly can.

Thank you this has reassured me loads and really made me realise that my husband unfortunately still needs antibiotics because his CRP numbers are high at 200 today

I asked why today but the doctors say they do not know where the infection is based