bereavement

I'm sorry for your loss.

Carole
Sending heartfelt condolences to you. Such a heartbreaking post

We lost my brother unexpectedly a few years ago. He was 44 and my poor parents discovered his body.
I also have two friends who lost their children, both primary school age.

All say that the only reason they 'go on' is for their other children/grandchildren. And that everything they done for the first few years was done on 'auto pilot'
They all agree that life will never be the same again, but that over time a 'new normal' life is created.

Please look after yourself and just get through each day one day at a time.

I am just approaching the twelfth anniversary of the loss of my 19 year old son to accidental drowning. It is the most dreadful loss, to lose a child at any age is wrong in the natural order of our lives. Being a bereaved parent is very hard. BUT I can say that it is possible to regain joy in your life, it's hard work every day but with the passage of time, things do gradually get easier. Focus on yourself, be a bit 'selfish' if you need to be rather than trying to be strong for everyone else. You need time to grieve along with everyone else. I have found great help from the compassionate friends, Cruse and, specific to water loss, the drowning support network. Take help wherever you can find it. We are just about to make a big move to Devon and I know that James will come with us in spirit ... it won't matter that he has not lived where we are going. Time is a healer - I know it is a cliche, but life does go on and you learn to live with the loss. I hope this helps. xx