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Is this a sure sign of Cheating

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Serkeen Thu 10-Aug-17 00:43:22

My sister came to me upset because her husband came home yesterday evening and when he was changing for bed she noticed that his underpants were inside out, she had seen him getting ready in the morning and she said that his underpants were on the right way round.

I did not know what to say to her, she suspects that he has cheated on her, what do you think, really could do with your opinions.

f77ms Thu 10-Aug-17 05:07:35

I think I would need more proof of cheating than inside out underpants . Why didn`t she ask him at the time why they were inside out ? there may be a simple explanation !

vampirequeen Thu 10-Aug-17 06:56:47

I don't think inside out underpants are enough evidence to prove cheating.

mumofmadboys Thu 10-Aug-17 07:19:05

Perhaps he's had a medical appt?

gillybob Thu 10-Aug-17 07:26:35

I Agree with what others have said inside out undies aren't really enough to assume he is cheating serken . First of all a lot of my DH's undies look the same on the inside as they do on the outside so was your sister absulutely sure she saw them the right way in the morning? Personally I would have to have quite a bit more evidence than this before I confronted him.

gillybob Thu 10-Aug-17 07:27:40

Apologies for misspelling your name Serkeen smile

BlueBelle Thu 10-Aug-17 07:40:54

Is this a wind up ?
Of course you can't judge just because his kecks were inside out maybe she was mistaken in the morning does she really gaze with such scrutiny at her old mans undies as he gets dressed each morning

MawBroon Thu 10-Aug-17 07:47:41

A sure sign?
Weird ?
Why didn't she just laugh and say "you've got your pants on inside out, have they been like that all day?"
It might be a heads up if he is dallying elsewhere, but if not, no harm done.
Is she suspicious by nature, by the way?

MawBroon Thu 10-Aug-17 08:01:22

(Entirely off the subject, but we haven't heard from you for some time.)
How is your DH these days Serkeen?

rosesarered Thu 10-Aug-17 08:34:01

I agree with Maw on this.
Hardly evidence of anything at all.

M0nica Thu 10-Aug-17 14:27:36

Why did the OP feel she could not ask him? Seems to me to be the simplest thing to do. I wouldn't think twice about doing that

Perhaps there is more to this story than just the inside out pants.

Jalima1108 Thu 10-Aug-17 14:54:11

kecks - that's a new word for me!!

If you put something on inside out then change it to the right way round you change your luck.
So - if you're having bad luck then change, if not then keep them on inside out all day long.

paddyann Thu 10-Aug-17 14:54:11

Maybe he went to a gym and had a shower before he came home ? I couldn't tell you if my OH's pants are on the right way or not,I dont take that much interest when he's getting dressed I'm usually too busy making breakfast or dealing with GC

gillybob Thu 10-Aug-17 15:27:48

"If you put something on inside out then change it to the right way round you change your luck"

So if I walk around with my knickers, bra, top, trousers and jacket all inside out, I might win the lottery Jalima ?

Blimey it's worth a try.

gillybob Thu 10-Aug-17 15:28:50

My DS says "under crackers" he was brought up so well blush

Morgana Thu 10-Aug-17 16:31:19

If she is suspicious then she needs more evidence before making a judgement. Has she checked his phone?

kittylester Thu 10-Aug-17 17:05:32

A friend's husband used to always take clean under pants with him and change them at lunchtime. Turns out that was a sure sign of cheating. But he was weird anyway!

Riverwalk Thu 10-Aug-17 17:19:27

It's a sure sign that he put them on in a hurry!

Teetime Thu 10-Aug-17 17:23:44

I think I'd need more evidence than shreddies on the wrong way round - does she have other suspicions?

Nanabilly Thu 10-Aug-17 18:18:35

I often take mine off at night and realise they were inside out. Your friend cannot be 100% certain they were the right way round in the morning surely unless she inspects him before he goes out.
I'd be more worried about your friend's mind than her husband to be honest.

JackyB Thu 10-Aug-17 21:04:40

I think she is right to suspect him. This is the sort of thing men don't even think about when they're up to things, but women notice.

It's unlikely that he would have put them on inside out after a workout or a medical checkup. Possible, but unlikely.

Unless he's short-sighted.

Ana Thu 10-Aug-17 21:17:08

Well why would he have put them on inside out after a liaison with his lover?

If they were that desperate and time was of the essence, he probably wouldn't have removed them at all...

Norah Thu 10-Aug-17 21:23:43

She could ask her dh why he wears his pants wrong side.

Eglantine19 Thu 10-Aug-17 21:44:35

Surely he would have noticed himself in the course of the evening. I mean, men's underpants, inside out,they open the wrong way when they have a pee, don't they? If he was guilty he would have adjusted them. On the other hand they couldn't have been wrong all day - could they?

Serkeen Fri 11-Aug-17 14:00:33

Hi thanks for that, a few mixed opinions but it seems most people feel that he did not cheat..

Would welcome more opinions if there are any smile because personally I think that was quite damming for him, when my sister asked her DH why his underpants were on the wrong way around, he said that he could not remember why.

he said he could not remember