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Bit upset about this

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Jalima1108 Sat 19-Aug-17 19:52:48

She was probably upset that you were letting her down at the last minute - was it because you just didn't feel like babysitting or did you have a virus that you didn't want to pass on, in which case you could have given her the option about whether or not she wanted to risk DGS catching it?

You left her in the lurch and I'm not surprised she was upset.

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norose4 Sat 19-Aug-17 19:35:42

Put it this way she will need you before you need her! Hopefully you will soon get your parking permit , it's never a good idea to get involved in borrowing stuff like that it usually ends badly
I expect Hubby is trying to keep the peace for fear of an escalating war of the women in his life!!

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Marian1412 Sat 19-Aug-17 19:31:21

Don't agree Anya I think it is DIL's fault and she is being selfish and unreasonable.

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Anya Sat 19-Aug-17 19:11:18

Don't let this get blown up out of all proportion. Just carry on as if nothing has happened and doubtless she will need you to babysit again, so everything will return to normal.

It's NOT your DiL's fault you got a parking ticket.

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lemongrove Sat 19-Aug-17 18:57:39

That certainly sounds a very poor do Serkeen and I don't blame you for feeling upset.We can all be ill sometimes and it sounds as if you do plenty of baby sitting anyway.
What justification is there for her to deny you the visitors permit to park your car?None surely.
You offered to do the sit anyway, although she should have said 'don't worry about it if you are not well' so what a selfish woman she has been about this.
Don't say anything to her, just don't babysit again until you are really well and you want to do it.

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Serkeen Sat 19-Aug-17 18:50:46

Hi everyone,, wanted to chat about something that happened to me this week, that made me very sad and well angry too.

My daughter in law asked me to babysit grandson, not quite two yrs old, I ok'd that but the day before I was due to baby sit I felt unwell, just had loads of stress recently, and had to let my daughter in law know that I was unwell and wouldn't be able to babysit, to which she replied well I have no one else so I agreed to just rest well and babysit anyway, but this is where the drama started because when I asked her what time she was bringing my grandson she huffed and said no need I will take him with me on my chore, I again said I would babysit but she became very huffy with me.

Now what happened next is what really upset me. I am waiting for my residents parking permit in the post and my daughter in law is allowing me to use her visitors permit until I receive mine and she refused to let me have it on the day of the due babysitting and til now, and it has cost me a parking ticket and loads of stress as to where to park the car.

I am convinced that she is being spiteful and it has really upset me that she would do that and she also has made me the baddy, telling my son that I would not babysit but omitting the bit were I did in the end agree to babysit.

Also when speaking to my husband about this he was just trying to justify why she did what she did which just upset ten fold.

I feel she is so un grateful, as only last week I baby sat two nights in a row, I am always helping her on a regular basis and I do loads for her, just so flabbergasted..

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