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petitpois Fri 10-Nov-17 10:28:17

Am hopeful it will turn out like your stories Smithy and Eglantine21. But I'll try be realistic. Ok, Facebook it is. gulp!
Don't know why I feel so nervous about it. Ridiculous. blush

Eglantine21 Thu 09-Nov-17 21:15:30

Give it a go. I was on Kings Cross station a few years ago when I heard someone call my name. It was a friend I he'd worked with and then lost touch when I moved jobs. She is now one of my best friends and such fun!

Tegan2 Thu 09-Nov-17 21:13:08

One of mine is on facebook; he's a locations manager for some tv programmes but is now married to someone very young and glamorous. Would love to know if he remembered me blush but I doubt it...sad

Jalima1108 Thu 09-Nov-17 21:10:23

I have never met an old boyfriend.

Anniebach Thu 09-Nov-17 21:08:48

Better to try than to wonder would she have replied and never know , good luck x

Smithy Thu 09-Nov-17 20:58:26

In 2000, pre face book days, I received a letter and a Christmas card from an old school friend I'd been very close to until for no reason around,1980 we drifted apart. She asked to meet up, which we did and it was as if all the years melted away. We have been meeting up on a,very regular basis ever since.

Elrel Thu 09-Nov-17 19:42:03

I've found contacting old school friends very rewarding. Old boyfriends less so, some pleasant meetings and some where I was just waiting for this stranger to go away!

Marmight Thu 09-Nov-17 19:20:14

Go for it. You have nothing to lose. If it doesn't work out at least you'll have given it a go. I met an old friend by chance in M&S car park after a gap of 25 years. I heard a voice shouting 'is that yoooo Marmight?'. Much water has passed beneath the bridge in that time but we now meet up regularly and find we have so much in common, not least our children who were friends at preschool and regret the wasted years. We've even been on a girlie spa break. Some years ago I met a very old friend after over 30 years which is ongoing and has been a wonderful experience. That's all I'm saying .......

Tegan2 Thu 09-Nov-17 19:07:51

Don't be upset if she doesn't accept your friend request straight away; sometimes it takes ages to pick up on them when they're sent.

Suki70 Thu 09-Nov-17 18:53:59

Do contact her, the worst that can happen is that she doesn't reply. I contacted two school friends through Friends Reunited, one had been a close friend through primary and secondary school but we drifted apart when I went to College, the other was more a friend of my husband (we were at the same school) but someone I knew. Things turned out very well, we found we still have lots in common, we email regularly and even though we live in different parts of the country we've met up several times and stayed with each other. Being able to share memories from so long ago is very special.

Maggiemaybe Thu 09-Nov-17 18:46:03

Well, it's worth a try, if you want to rekindle the friendship, isn't it? Though I'm not going to inspire you with my stories, I'm afraid. One uni friend got in touch after many years, we met up once and had absolutely nothing in common, so that friendship died a quick second death. And another very good friend from my schooldays has recently sent me a friend request, but I won't be responding - there are reasons why we haven't been in touch over the years, our lives are totally different and I don't think a Facebook reunion will mean a thing. She has over 300 FB "friends" and I have 30, all of whom are real life friends and family.

Devorgilla Thu 09-Nov-17 17:54:04

I have contacted people I was friends with at School/University via FB. Some responded, some didn't. I actually went to a University Reunion with one and we had a great time. By all means try. Just don't get upset if they don't respond. Some people want to reconnect, some don't. We email one another from time to time but it is a much more casual connection now than it was in the past. That's fine by me. Good luck.

judypark Thu 09-Nov-17 17:53:29

Years ago I discovered that a teenage sweetheart was now single as was I. We had been inseparable and soul mates for a heady two years.
We arranged to meet and I foolishly assumed we would just pick up where we had just left off in the 1970s. Big disappointment.
My fond memories of those halcyon days were nothing like his, the only recollections shared were since long lost 6th form friends. We had absolutely nothing in common.
You have nothing to lose by contacting your old friend but don't pin your hopes of it flourishing.

Tegan2 Thu 09-Nov-17 17:08:17

Facebook is great for that, as you can limit what people see/read. Just send her a message and a friend request; she can only ignore it if she wants to, I did get back in touch with my oldest school friend [we had been in touch on friendsreunited] but our political views are so different that I couldn't maintain the friendship, and we really have nothing in common any more. But I do check out her public page sometimes just to see that she's ok [she had a health scare the other year].

petitpois Thu 09-Nov-17 17:01:53

but I've recently tracked down an old friend on Facebook. We were very close for a long time and then there was some missed communication about something - I've actually forgotten what (!) and things turned frosty for a bit and then she left our town and we completely drifted apart. I got all nostalgic looking at the photos of her and remembering our shared laughs and cries. I'd really like to re-establish contact with her but I'm not sure how to do it? And if I'm honest, scared I'll be rebuffed, or worse, ignored. Anyone else have any stories of long lost friendships reunited that may inspire me and give me the courage?