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Do you believe in bad luck and how to change it

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AllTheLs Sat 18-Nov-17 10:18:27

It happened to me - I thought I was the only person in the world going through so many shitty things, one after the other, seemingly never ending. Then I got cancer. It was a relief - I thought the 'bad luck fairy' had finally overdone things, that I would die and she wouldn't be able to torment me any more. As soon as I got cancer, ironically, things started to get better. This is me writing 9 years on - I will never forget that things got so bad, cancer was seen as a way out of it all. Hope things start getting better for you, too.

lemongrove Sat 18-Nov-17 10:17:39

Good posts from others so not much to add mumski except that all troubles come to an end at some time.
Random good luck and bad luck, are just that, random.
We can’t prevent events, but can try and have strength to deal with them.flowers

NanKate Sat 18-Nov-17 07:52:29

mumski on reading through GN I realise we all have major ups and downs in our lives. I agree it is nothing to do with luck just life.

Since mid summer our family has had the most awful time, there is hardly a day when I haven’t had tears which have got me precisely nowhere.

I have learned to appreciate the odd laugh and ligthning of my mood. I have turned back to prayer which has helped me, but I realise it is not for everyone. I have learned to appreciate my lovely friends and those virtual ones on GN. All in all it is a bl**dy struggle but my family will smile once more, one day.

I do sincerely hope life turns round for you too mumski.

Willow500 Sat 18-Nov-17 07:39:07

I don't believe in luck either - it's just life - some is good and some is bad and we have to live each day as best we can. We too have been through some dark days - my MIL told me 'one day this will all pass'. She was referring not just to her own terminal illness but also all the other struggles we were having at the time. I hope things improve for you over the coming months flowers

paddyann Sat 18-Nov-17 00:45:55

my husband says everyone gets the same amount of good and bad luck ,its just distributed differently.We've had periods of time where we've felt we had someone else's share .So I know how it feels.Just try to stay away from negativity and try to see a positive behind everything "bad" that happens ...its not easy but there is usually something good to come from most situations .Theres a New Year around the corner ,look at it as a fresh start .When we had our worst spell I did a Firewalk ...sounds daft but it felt as if I had taken back control by walking over hot coals and it helped me to get back on track

Morgana Fri 17-Nov-17 20:56:57

I think lots of us have had a difficult year, but then life can't be all singing and dancing can it? My mum had quite a difficult life but we were always told to -'count our blessings'. Hard at times I know. Hope good things are on their way for you.

loopyloo Fri 17-Nov-17 19:28:06

Perhaps you can see if you can improve your situation at the moment. If your DH is home now are there any benefits you can apply for ? Or might it be possible to get a part time job? Any little thing you can do to make life better is worth thinking about. Finding cheap ways to get pleasure out of life is helpful. I find even going out for a walk helps.
Hoping things improve for you.

Iam64 Fri 17-Nov-17 19:18:17

Day 6 - flowers you summarise it so well.

Day6 Fri 17-Nov-17 19:12:41

Mumski, I am so sorry life has been so difficult for you.

Sadly I think many of us can recall times where one bad thing followed another. Life isn't fair and never has been.

It seems to me that some people lived fairly charmed lives. Many a time I have wondered 'Why me?" when life never runs smoothly or kindly.

Now, I cherish the smooth patches of life. They tend to be rare in my case but I am grateful for the peace that comes eventually (usually long after) after pain. Events scar us and change us and sometimes strengthen us but we can do nothing to swerve the slings and arrows of life unfortunately. There is nothing we can do except hold on if we possibly can. I know that can be terribly hard to do too.

The light at the end of the tunnel can be a long time coming. sad

Iam64 Fri 17-Nov-17 17:59:46

I agree with MissA, all we can change about life events is the way we respond to them. The power of positively re-framing life events can become a helpful habit. I accept some may see it as the Pollyanna gene escaping again. Your partner survived against the odds, I know you will have celebrated that but when you find yourself ruminating on all the difficult and painful events this past year, try and set the positives on top. I speak from experience, rather than from a life that's had no ups, downs or disasters.

Nelliemoser Fri 17-Nov-17 17:54:29

I do not believe in luck.
I just know that life can gett shitty at times.

BlueBelle Fri 17-Nov-17 17:15:38

Sorry for how it’s going Mumski I too don’t believe in good or bad luck it’s just random and yes it very often happens in clusters (usually the bad ) and I agree with MissAdventure it’s how you deal with it, damned hard when it all comes piling in and in answer to your last question no you can’t change it
Hopefully some good times are on the horizon xx

M0nica Fri 17-Nov-17 17:09:59

I do not believe in 'luck'. I think in life events are entirely random. That means at times they cluster. The times we notice and remember are the times when everything goes wrong as they are in your life at present and I do have every sympathy for you with all the problems you are having at present. The times when good events cluster we notice less.

I still remember very clearly a year when disaster got us in a corner and hammered blows on us. but several good things happened that we didn't notice at the time and laid the foundations for future good events.

My sympathy is with you mumski at times like this life feels like a black hole that will never lighten. All I can offer is flowers.

humptydumpty Fri 17-Nov-17 14:06:22

Spounds as if the only way is up - good luck

Anniebach Fri 17-Nov-17 13:49:25

Most go through troubled periods, try to think of good periods in your life , there will be many x

MissAdventure Fri 17-Nov-17 13:45:43

I think the only thing you can change is your reaction to these things. It sounds cheesy, 'New age' etc, and a few years back I wouldn't have considered it, but its really all you can do.
Twice your partner has cheated death, etc. Worth a try, maybe? Anyway, hope things do start to get better for you. smile

mumski Fri 17-Nov-17 13:38:23

I feel a bit vulnerable asking the question but do you believe in bad luck and if so how it can be "turned around"? We've ha such an appalling 18 months with the deaths of parents, serious illness of my partner (we were told twice he would die but thank goodness he has just come home from hospital) . Loss of earning and all saving gone. My daughter also very poorly and then lost her drivers licence this week... it just goes on and on. Someone remarked yesterday "Whoever is writing the script for your life at the moment should be sacked!!"
I am generally an upbeat person and try and see the good in most people and situations, but lately I've been thinking is there any end to all this bad luck or what ever you want to call it and what could I do to change what's happening to us.?