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What is the right thing to do

(56 Posts)
Serkeen Sat 09-Dec-17 21:02:16

Thank you for your comments so far, no one is saying yes just slip out, everyone so far has said that goodbye should be said.

My grandson is two, I feel that if I just slip away without the goodbye, it saves the upset, am I on my own with that thought ?

absent Sat 09-Dec-17 20:27:33

All little ones go through separation anxiety about the important people in their lives. My youngest grandson (two and a half) still sometimes has little fits when he is being driven home from my house, yelling "Other way! Back to Granna!" While flattering, this is also a bit upsetting, especially for his mum who may have to endure the shouting all the way home. He also has a bit of a grumble when mum leaves for work and he stays with me. However, we do the constant reassurance that you will see Mum/Granna again soon. He's now more inclined to say, "Bye, see you next week".

Bridgeit Sat 09-Dec-17 19:54:29

How young is your dear Grandson? Just keep it light telling him you will be back soon & perhaps ask him to count how many sleeps it will be etc until will be back again,try to involve him, by saying something like how many minutes on the clock has Nanny got left etc ... good luck

Ilovecheese Sat 09-Dec-17 19:42:40

I think you should say goodbye. He might be more anxious wondering if you were going to vanish at any time, so even if he is upset, he does have certainty.

vampirequeen Sat 09-Dec-17 19:42:27

DD2 was a terrible 'goodbye' crier. Even now, as an adult, she has a problem with that word but she understands it's illogical so can control it. Develop a routine around goodbye and stick to it. Make it short and sweet and go. Your GS will cry for a while then be OK. The longer you draw out the goodbye the worse it will be. If you just disappear it will confuse him because he's not yet of an age to understand why you just disappear.

Serkeen Sat 09-Dec-17 19:37:21

When I visit my grandson and it is time for me to go home he cries and does not want me to leave.

I decided that the best thing to do is just slip away and not say bye so to avoid his tears

My daughter in law however thinks different, she thinks that even though he gets upset and cries loads, I should still say goodbye.

Please help with your opinion

So interested in your thoughts

Thank you