ajanela, good points, well made about a letter/ e-mail, yep I'd missed that so thanks for pointing it out.
And yep icanhandthemback you're right I needed to have read it all then I'd be up to date, my bad. I've read (not skip read) the post and it does seem as if there's a good out come. I'm glad about that for everyone involved.
How much do you spend on yourself?