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Please help with this

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Serkeen Sun 24-Jun-18 20:43:22

Ps thank you for you prompt reply/post appreciate it

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Serkeen Sun 24-Jun-18 20:42:27

She never hits them but she is like a sears ant major there is not a lot of love just lots of telling off but that said I am now terribly concerned that I have caused an argument and just want to know how to make things better now and what to say to my son for him not to be arguing with DIL

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Jalima1108 Sun 24-Jun-18 20:38:33

It depends what you mean by harsh Serkeen

Do you mean that she chastises the child very loudly (ie shouts) or that she hits the child?

Obviously, whatever Mum said, it had no effect as the child did not take his/her feet off the sofa.

If she hits the children then it could be a cause for concern but otherwise I would say nothing.

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Serkeen Sun 24-Jun-18 20:34:54

My DIL is quite harsh with my grandchildren and at first I thought more towards one than the other ..

So I mentioned to my son because I was worried for the children

My son denied it and said she was not harsh and that he would not allow her to be harsh

Today I visited them and the little one had her feet on the sette and my DIL was very very harsh when telling her to remove her feet off of the settee and my son got involved at first saying why are you not listening To Mummy then DIL continued being harsh even though my son was dealing with it

This caused them to argue between themselves with my DIL saying to my son stop interfering when I am telling her something and do not get involved, my son is a very loving caring and hands on kind of a Father and did not take kindly to that comment and so it continued and she said that he had been doing much the same all week ..which was around he time I said what I said.

Now I am feeling bad and that I may have made a mistake but I am truly concerned for my grandchild because DIL is really Unnecessarly harsh true way in that she reprimands he children.

The help I need now is How do I make this better now what can I say to my son, I do not want them arguing because of something that I have said that has obviously played on my sons mind

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