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Behaviour of dgd

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cornergran Mon 13-Aug-18 17:48:23

Hmm. I’m settling on the change of routine and back to boundary testing. Coukd there have been a sort of emotional growth spurt she is as confused with as you all are? Is she beginning school in September? Could that be a factor? I think I’d be considering when it began and what was happening in her life. Is it worth a gentle chat? Ask what’s troubling her? Good luck with it. Certainly a challenging time.

BlueBelle Mon 13-Aug-18 17:47:45

Well asking her to be good won’t make much difference
It depends how old she is if she’s two or three then it sounds fairly normal, supermarkets can be very boring so depending on her age make her responsible for collecting. finding, ticking off things make her a list if she’s too young to read draw the things she’s to find if she s older write it in fairly big writing
I always found the gold stars chart much more productive than naughty step not keen on that one at all If the child is full of life curiosity and vigour sitting on a step won’t make them improve, my feelings are the naughty step may work for a compliant child but for a little firy one won’t
try and include her in learning as you go round shops or on car rides walks etc like an eye spy game or adding up but it will all depend on how old she is

etheltbags1 Mon 13-Aug-18 17:45:21

The dad doesnt get involved unlesd shes rude to him directly. The other gran and grandad spoil her unbelievably. Dd has no say in what they do as partner will not back her up.

wildswan16 Mon 13-Aug-18 17:43:46

Depends on how old she is. Maybe she doesn't like holidays, having her routine interrupted, being stuck in cars/trains/planes for hours. Overtired. Confused as to where she is. Different food, different water, different bed.

What are you doing on "her" holiday - is she on a beach, swimming, playing with mum etc etc. She's trying to tell you something.

etheltbags1 Mon 13-Aug-18 17:43:02

Dgd is 4 coming up 6 in december

cornergran Mon 13-Aug-18 17:42:52

Was there a trigger for the change in her behaviour? How long has it been going on? It sounds like serious boundary testing. Sort of appropriate if she’s 2, less so if she’s 5. Sorry, ethel, not sure how to help with this. She does sound seriously hard work. It’s a good job we love them.

ContraryMary88 Mon 13-Aug-18 17:36:17

You don’t say how old the little darling is ethel ?

etheltbags1 Mon 13-Aug-18 17:31:33

My dd and partner are on holiday. Dgd has been really badly behaved dd is at her wits end. I dont know how to help. Little one has been getting worse lately will not do as shes told. She wont come back. Runs off in supermarket.tells us she hates us.kicks.bites. there is nothing we can do to stop her. She wont listen. She will sit on the naughty step laughing at us. I had to restrain her in the shop with 2 hands so dd could go thro checkout. It is do unfair that dd should have her holiday spoiled like this.we asked dgd to be good. What on earth has got into her.