Good time girl

Heavens, I have not heard that expression for years! I imagine dingy nightclubs, loose women smoking through a cigarette holder etc. Yes, I do think the same as you nananina, the boyfriends mother sounds very clingy, trying to put him off? Very rude of her to suggest your DGD is ‘a good time girl”.

I think Nina being judged as too involved is not fair, she was just asking our views on the good time girl expression, which in my younger days was not particularly complimentary.

I have no idea why a grandmother (however young) should know what her grandchildren are doing, much less saying to each other when they are old enough to be at university
I m sorry but this is way over the top you have no idea what she meant so absolutely.no point in even thinking about it
Your granddaughter however close she is to you needs a private life and you should be encouraging that and not getting involved in her lovelife, let her sort it out for herself
Nananina

No I don't know the tone of voice as I wasn't there and I have no idea why the BR told DGD. He usually tells her nice things that his mother has said. Hmm greyduster you never spoke a truer word. He is afraid of asking his mother if he can go out in the evening and whether he can stay over at DGD's Uni - we're hoping when he's 18 he'll see sense. But why do you think the remark was unacceptable Greyduster among the older generation.

FlexibleFriend I'm not offended but I just wanted to know what others think /

Eglantine you make a decision based on a few lines of text. I am not way way too involved in my DGD's boyfriend. I have a very close relationship and she confides in me. She wasn't telling me this because she was worrried, it was simply the words "good time girl" have connotations for me. I was a social worker for 30 years and the birthmother of babies to be adopted were often described as "good time girls" only a few steps away from prostitution. Obviously I didn't make any comment to DGD and I'm sure sure she would have said something. Thing is regardless of what you think Eglantine the mother IS controlling or do you consider for a young man of 17.5 it is normal to have to ask his mother if he go out and sometimes he admits that he is afraid to ask her or maybe you think that's normal.

I am not fretting about DGD's BF all the family have taken to him and DGD confides in me sometimes but her mom and dad are there for her too. My DIL thinks it's ridiculous that he is controlled by his mother. Maybe you were not fortunate enough to have a young-at-heart grandmother in whom you could confide as is the case with my DGD.

Anyway I'm relieved that none of you had similar thoughts when I heard the words "good time girl"

I have not been on mumsnet nor gransnet for a long time and Eglantine has reminded me why, people making decisions about the complexities of family relationships and being very judgemental/

Sorry to say this but you are way, way too involved in what is your Granddaughters relationship.

I would have been horrified if my grandmother started fretting about my teenage boyfriends.

And you think his mother is controlling..........

Is this a joke?

You don't know what she meant so why take offence. Ignore her and what she said.

He should man up and tell her the remark was unacceptable!

Another mother who cannot let her son go!!

Good point Annibach, let’s hope he said something along the lines ‘ ohh you’ll never guess what my Mum said’ & laughed about it .

Why did he repeat what his mother said

Depends on the tone of voice it is said with. A cheerful ‘ she’s a good time girl’ is fine, but if said in a dissapproving voice as In oh she she’s a good time girl by the sounds of it !
Then there could be trouble ahead ?