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Ginny42 Sat 08-Dec-18 15:59:56

We're trying to wean my 10 year old GS off computer games. He has recently set up his train set again and is having a new train and some scenery for his layout for Christmas. So far so good.

During his summer stay with me I got him into collecting coins from the Royal Mint for his birthday and also collecting fossils.

I have been saving stamps for him for a long time and given that there aren't many letters with stamps now, they are quite difficult to come by. However, I do have some and some first day covers from the UK, Spain and some sets of stamps from China.

My question is: Anyone know the best way to go about saving stamps? I presume they don't still use the fiddly little hinges I used as a child. Do they use an album?

He attends school a long way from where he lives and playing with his friends online is a vital part of his weekends. He's not allowed to play during the week but he can spend a few hours playing with his trains and getting his collections sorted.

Any ideas please?

Greyduster Sat 08-Dec-18 16:15:58

There is a good stamp collecting starter kit on Amazon. The album has inserts that you slot the stamps behind (no fiddling with the hinges I use to get so annoyed with as a child!). I don’t know if W.H. Smith still sell starter albums. You should be able to get packs of mixed or single subject stamps online. If you can get him interested, he might want to specialise in stamps relating to particular subjects or countries. My DH collected stamps until about 1980. We still have all his albums gathering dust in the attic! I wish my. GS were interested in them.

BlueBelle Sat 08-Dec-18 16:18:18

Ginny this sounds very structured for a 10 year old, not much freedom of choice wouldn’t it be better if he chose his own interests I might be wrong but I don’t think kids collect stamps these days I have a stamp album and offered my grandkids but none were interested, more interested in footie or pokaman cards😂
What is he interested in ?

Lynne59 Sat 08-Dec-18 17:50:14

Those hobbies sound very dull for a 10 year old boy!

Does he play any sport? Does he swim? Ice skate?

How about arts and crafts - making things, painting, etc. Photography?

Buffybee Sat 08-Dec-18 18:08:07

What about learning to play an instrument, if he says he might be interested in it?
My Dgs started to play a guitar 2 years ago when he was 8, he spends lots of time practicing and has passed several Grade exams.
He is now the youngest member of a group, formed by his music teacher and they have performed at Church Fairs over this Summer.
He also plays Rugby and has two practise days and matches at the weekend.
Sport is great for getting them away from their ipads etc.

Ginny42 Sat 08-Dec-18 18:19:42

Thank you greyduster. I'll check them out. He lives in Europe and skis, swims, and roller skates. He's also completed a beginners sailing course this year and although he'll happily skis down a black run, he's small for his age, and found sailing daunting. He's keen on sports at school, especially football. He's also interested in following the International Space station and the planets and stars.

Lynne, he'd love to be good at art but he's not great artistically and gives up in frustration. He can copy pictures using a grid.

BB I spent an interesting afternoon yesterday doing Pokemon Go with him and he has hundreds of cards but these fads come and go in seasons. Right now his friends are into Fortnite and No Man's Sky. Yes he does play those games, but he's not allowed them during the week.

Thanks for all your suggestions.

Bathsheba Sat 08-Dec-18 18:20:44

I too think stamp collecting is deadly dull and to be honest, rather anachronistic. I don't think any children collect stamps these days, any more than they collect tram or train tickets. These were the hobbies of their grandparents, not even their parents!
Buffybee's suggestion of a musical instrument (if he's interested) is an excellent one, as is photography. It is cheaper than ever these days to get an entry level DSLR camera, especially if you try the specialist second hand dealers - this could give him a hobby for life.

FlexibleFriend Sat 08-Dec-18 18:21:11

They sound like grandad hobbies that a 10 year old might do with grandad not really something they'd do on their own. Left to his own devices he might well surprise you, my youngest used to be very into world of warcraft which still seems to be going strong. He became expert at painting the figurines and sold quite a few on ebay for profit. He had himself a profitable sideline going for quite a while. I was surprised he was so good at it as he'd never shown any artistic leanings previously.

Bathsheba Sat 08-Dec-18 18:22:05

Oh, and I should have added, re a photography hobby - there are some very good, free photo editing software packages around, which could give him hours of fun.

Jane10 Sat 08-Dec-18 18:25:20

He's already doing masses! Don't make your plans into a chore for him. ie not something he feels he has to do for Gran's sake. Leave him be.

Maggiemaybe Sat 08-Dec-18 18:47:29

I’m a great believer in letting children get bored. That’s when their own creativity kicks in and they find out what they want to do, rather than what we think they should.

Jalima1108 Sat 08-Dec-18 19:03:36

I agree with other posters and with Maggiemaybe about letting their own creativity kick in.
Too many children are not capable of amusing themselves these days because of 'helicopter parents' hovering over them and organising their lives in minute detail.

If he lives far from friends at school, could he join a club nearby where he could meet other boys his own age? Is there a local football club or somewhere where they teach Soccer Skills - something outdoors? My friend's DS disliked football and rugby but took to hockey and still plays for a men's team now he's an adult.

Jalima1108 Sat 08-Dec-18 19:04:45

DGS collects coins but, quite frankly, there is not a lot you can do with them! Collect, arrange and look at them for a few minutes!

petra Sat 08-Dec-18 21:36:30

If I suggested stamp collecting to my grandson ( which I wouldn't) there would be a lot of rolling of eyes grin

paddyann Sat 08-Dec-18 21:56:32

I would never suggest either a train set or stamp collecting for a 10 year old.You do understand that the computer games etc are actuallybeneficial to him? Trying to turn him into a 1940's child amongst 21st century children will be a huge mistake.Let him find his own way,he wont thank you foor interfering .

Anja Sat 08-Dec-18 22:06:02

Get him out of the house. Swimming, football, tennis, cubs, drama.....

Melanieeastanglia Sat 08-Dec-18 22:14:55

Scouts? I am not sure 8f this is an old-fashioned suggestion. I think they're still active.

BlueBelle Sat 08-Dec-18 22:15:34

I think it all sounds very controlling I think computer games are the equvelent but so much better of books games and jigsaw puzzles we had all those years ago
My grandson used to talk to and play with his friends over a fifa game which was nearly as good as socialising as his school was a good way from home
Your lad really does sound like he’s from another era Let him decide what he want to do and please don’t see the computer as an enemy Hasn’t he ny friends in your area he could ride a bike or climb a tree with

Ginny42 Sat 08-Dec-18 22:15:35

He's the kind of child who needs challenge and when one activity is ending, he needs something else to move on to. Left to his own devices he would play computer games all day. Fortunately he's a reader. He does some after school clubs like robotics which he enjoys very much.

Yes, Paddyann I know computer games have many advantages, but too much screen time and games like Fortnite is not good, and shooting people in the head is a hideous concept. We asked at the games shop if there were any non-violent games and the man said not. It's what his friends are playing though. He's always been mad about trains though and is now constructing a layout and I'm going to help him paint a backdrop.

He lives far from his school friends and is an only child so his mother and I are essentially his play friends.

Thank you all for suggestions.

Melanieeastanglia Sat 08-Dec-18 22:16:21

Soety about writing 8f. I meant "if".

I went out for lunch so fingers a bit fat this evening.

BlueBelle Sat 08-Dec-18 22:42:12

Glad you’re Soety about it Melanie 😂😂😂

FlexibleFriend Sat 08-Dec-18 22:58:29

There's loads of non violent computer games so the man in the shop is in the wrong job. Both my sons played loads of computer games these days they talk to their mates with their headphones while doing it and yes they still play even though ones 30 and the other 38. Fifa isn't exactly violent, well no more than playing football, there are loads of similar sporty games. Shoot em up's don't make kids violent either that's a load of tosh. They do know that shooting people in the heads not real.

BlueBelle Sun 09-Dec-18 03:41:34

Of course there are non violent computer games the ganesshop man was talking out of his rear end
My grandson would play Fifa all day if he could (that’s not violent as one example) I don’t know anything about Minecraft but I m told that that is really good for problem solving and is even used in some schools
Think of computers as yesterday’s books
I think your last statement is the worrying one ‘his mother and I are essentially his play friends’ I understand he lives far from his school friends but can’t he belong to something in the area something like scouts His life sounds so organised maybe after a long day at school and homework he just needs to unwind and chill out aren’t there any boys live nearby that he can kick a ball or ride a bike with
Let him just be sometimes

Jalima1108 Sun 09-Dec-18 11:43:57

Fifa, Minecraft and is there one called Sims? You can build a virtual world; it could be the same as one my friend told me about years ago and if she approved of it, then it must be OK!

I do realise how difficult it is if he lives way out in the country without other families nearby or any facilities; however, I hope that you have transport and you or his mother will just have to be prepared to find some activities and become a taxi service to avoid him becoming isolated.
If he is a quiet, studious kind of boy, is there a chess club or something similar that he could join?

Jalima1108 Sun 09-Dec-18 11:46:32

The other thing I thought of - does he have any pets? Perhaps a dog? He would have to learn to look after the animal and could have some fun playing with the dog.