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Surprise Phone Call

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Bekind Thu 17-Jan-19 13:45:58

I got a call from my DIL yesterday. We don't have a close relationship and she never calls except to ask for babysitting. I couldn't answer but my daughter got a call next. She's letting everyone know she got breast implants last week. I'm kind of at a loss as to how to respond when she calls me today.

janeainsworth Fri 18-Jan-19 00:04:18

Yes you are right bekind and annep, but it is similar to getting your teeth done, or having a facelift, or Botox, in that it is changing one’s appearance and the image one presents to the world.

Some people affect to not care what they look like or what they wear, but that in itself is making a statement.

So undertaking a fairly drastic, expensive, time consuming, and possibly irreversible change to one’s appearance implies a certain underlying insecurity and anxiety, and any comments should be supportive and helpful and not derisive.

BradfordLass72 Fri 18-Jan-19 01:08:37

You say they are coming over at the weekend Bekind?

Don't serve melon as a starter.

smile

Bekind Fri 18-Jan-19 15:34:18

Got my phone call last night. Thanks to all your good advice, it went well. I concentrated on her well-being after the operation, told her she was gorgeous before and would be after, and that I was happy for her. She sounded pleased and relieved and I hope it makes our relationship closer.

Madgran77 Fri 18-Jan-19 19:46:27

Nice one Bekind