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Jeannie59 Wed 27-Feb-19 10:03:09

Me neither, all of my 4 grandchildren live in the U.S and OZ
2 in the U.S are adults now.

maryneale Wed 27-Feb-19 10:01:54

Join the U3A

luluaugust Wed 27-Feb-19 10:00:12

Yes same here, all the DGC growing up quickly and life has moved on again, the wheel has turned, I am afraid it happens to most people, like me you are realising it is time to find other interests. I am sure they don't love us any the less but my AC are at the beginning of the empty nest syndrome themselves I'm doing it the second time around!! Good luck and take care.

BlueBelle Wed 27-Feb-19 08:11:51

I would imagine the no more holidays is because most teenagers stop going on holiday with family and start striding out n their own
It is life’s circle and s inevitable keep your chin up

Anja Wed 27-Feb-19 07:45:15

You do need to find ‘another life’ I agree.

Urmstongran Wed 27-Feb-19 07:42:40

Nothing stays the same. It’s the cycle of life.
That said, you sound down about it Jacksgran so ?

Anja Wed 27-Feb-19 07:29:57

Ah! The grandchildren growing up and not being needed so much syndrome. I think many of us can relate to that.

Luckily three of mine are still at primary so we will be ‘needed’ for a few more years yet.

Can you lure them round now and again perhaps?

M0nica Wed 27-Feb-19 07:29:27

Never lived close enough to be anything other than a visiting/visited grandparent.

Humbertbear Wed 27-Feb-19 07:02:05

After 13 years of being involved with our three GC we too are facing redundancy from September when they will all be taking the school coach and we will not be doing pick ups. I’m already keeping in touch with the our oldest GD by What’s App as I rarely see her and I wonder how we will keep in touch with the younger two. We were expecting to do school pick ups for the youngest GD for a few more years. On the bright side, weekends away will be easier to arrange but I will really miss the children.

ninathenana Wed 27-Feb-19 06:40:36

I'm wondering, as it says no more family holidays whether there has been a rift rather than this just being a case of DGC maturing.
We need more detail but I'm sorry you are feeling sad, no matter what the details are flowers

GrandmainOz Wed 27-Feb-19 05:43:10

Oh, jacksgran you sound very down. Hope whatever your situation is, you can find a way to improve things

BlueBelle Wed 27-Feb-19 04:59:53

But Tanith that’s not how it is for a great many families You are very lucky
My grandchildren are all teens and the real picture is they do not need you now and that’s exactly as life should be but it does take some getting used to

tanith Tue 26-Feb-19 22:38:18

You don’t explain if this is just your GC growing up or something else? If the former can I tell you that my eldest GS is in his 30s and he still wants us all to go on holidays together. So with his 3 siblings and wives/girlfriends/boyfriends and Grt GC we’re all off to Dorset for a week in the Summer.
There are new experiences as your GC grow up don’t dispair.

annep1 Tue 26-Feb-19 22:34:36

No more family hols??

Patsy70 Tue 26-Feb-19 22:32:19

Oh, Jacksgran, I really do feel for you. My youngest granddaughter is ten and a half, and getting to the stage when she'll not be needing me to collect her from school. Yes, you must find other interests. There are so many choices, so be brave and go for it!

Jacksgran Tue 26-Feb-19 22:26:35

No more school pick ups no more babysitting no more family hols need to find another life