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Wedding gift for nephew

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whatkatydid Fri 03-May-19 11:49:46

Hello. Our nephew is getting married in July. He and his girlfriend have been together for years, they're in their late twenties. Bit of background, we haven't seen him since his teens, mostly because of distance, but we hear all his news from his mum, my sis-in-law, who we also don't see much of because of distance, but do keep in touch with. We won't be invited to the wedding, which is absolutely fine as they're having a really small do for immediate family and close friends in a local pub, which I think is a great idea - no problems there! We would like to send them a small gift, though, just to say we're thinking of them and to wish them lots of love and luck. I'd rather not just send money, but I'm not sure what might be appropriate. Does anyone have any ideas? Thanks. smile

moorlikeit Sat 04-May-19 10:01:33

I haven't read through all the ideas so this may have been mentioned before but what about a day spa break for both of them? They are very popular with younger folk and a real treat.

ReadyMeals Sat 04-May-19 10:11:16

Usually people have a list lodged with a well known retail store. Guests request the details (if he is polite he won't give them to you until you ask) then you interact with the store by phone or internet to select the gift you will give, and the store deals with wrapping it and sending it on your behalf

burnel Sat 04-May-19 10:24:42

Nice photo frame, i have given named roses always goes down well.

Goblinsattackin Sat 04-May-19 10:36:39

Ask their Mum, she'll almost certainly have a ready answer for you. They will probably have had the conversation "we don't want or expect any gifts but if anyone asks........"

David1968 Sat 04-May-19 10:39:17

I agree fully with Mawbroonsback. You can never go wrong with (good quality) big cuddly bathsheets. And perhaps matching hand towels and flannels, depending on how much you want to spend. I've given such towels to a few couples - years later one couple mentioned that they were still using the towels and loved them.

Mrsdof Sat 04-May-19 11:26:03

How about a voucher from Buyagift where they can choose a day out somewhere, i.e. a boat trip, afternoon tea, or theatre trip etc.

Helennonotion Sat 04-May-19 11:45:05

The Royal Mint have some gift coin presentations of the current year. Might be a nice keepsake of the year they were married.

SaraC Sat 04-May-19 11:56:59

Had the same issue with two of my nieces. I don’t know if you’re a ‘stitcher’, or have the time, but there are some lovely wedding day sampler kits for sale on the internet - loads of different designs and styles to chose from. I made a framed sampler for one and made the sampler for the other into a cushion. Both were delighted (thank goodness!)

sarahcyn Sat 04-May-19 12:40:47

According to the laws of physics it is impossible to have too many good bath towels, even if they sit in a cupboard for a few years waiting for the current batch to wear out.
But I’d seriously look into a case of decent champagne.

Patticake123 Sat 04-May-19 13:06:39

Do they have a garden? If so a gardening voucher would be lovely. They could buy a shrub that will forever be ‘whatkatydid’ a nice way to be remembered!

Pat1949 Sat 04-May-19 13:41:26

I don't think you can go wrong with a voucher. It might not be very imaginative but at least they can buy something which is needed.

sharon103 Sat 04-May-19 14:43:15

I agree with getting a store gift voucher or if you go onto the 'Next' store online and type in wedding gifts you can buy really lovely gifts from just a few pounds and some personalised with the bride and grooms names and wedding date and year. It's worth having a look. They sell gift cards too from £10 upwards.

Newatthis Sat 04-May-19 14:46:37

These days newly weds have a wedding list which is normally linked to a shop where they will list things that they really want indifferent price ranges. If not then a John Lewis voucher (or another shop) is a good idea.

searose Sat 04-May-19 14:50:47

There is a charity called Fine cell that makes hand stitched soft furnishings and other things. They have some items especially for newlyweds. They are not cheap but the quality is good and at the same time you would be supporting their cause.

trooper7133 Sat 04-May-19 15:22:52

A nice photo frame

grandtanteJE65 Sat 04-May-19 15:26:23

Surely, your sister-in-law can suggest something, or tell you whether the young couple are registered anywhere or have an online wishing-list.

That way you would be more certain of giving something they will like.

Most shops these days will gift-wrap a present and allowed it to be exchanged for a certain length of time afterwards if you mention that it is a wedding present.

sazz1 Sat 04-May-19 15:33:41

I always give a towel bale usually in white unless I've seen the colour scheme.

whywhywhy Sat 04-May-19 15:44:27

Find out what their favourite shop is, maybe from one of their parents and see if you can get them some gift vouchers. I wouldnt buy anything as they may already have it.

nipsmum Sat 04-May-19 15:50:21

No matter how long they have been together it's always nice to be able to buy something you both would like or renew . I found Amazon Vouchers very acceptable. You can buy anywhere with your choice of amount.

Inca Sat 04-May-19 16:00:35

I remarried at 60 in 2017. Obviously we had most things that we needed. Were given bottles of bubbly and JL vouchers....but we particularly enjoyed using the gift card we were given for Bella Italia. We enjoyed having a meal there after a visit to the cinema nearly 2 years after we married... it was almost like receiving the gift all over again! smile

Onestepbeyond Sat 04-May-19 16:20:09

Silver gifts are good for Weddings- Photo frames or a posy bowl

elleks Sat 04-May-19 17:10:57

"I'm still using the last of the towels we received as wedding presents. We got married 38 years ago"
44 years here, and we're doing the same! Good quality lasts.

whatkatydid Sat 04-May-19 18:25:10

Ahh, now I have another problem, which of these great ideas to choose! They're quite an 'alternative' couple, he is a musician and in a band, and have their own style, so I'm slightly leaning towards the idea of some delicous bubbly, with a couple of vintage champagne glasses and some delicious treats packed up in a gift box - something they can enjoy after the big day, perhaps. Thank you all for the suggestions, I'm keeping a note of them all for future wedding gifts!

grannyticktock Sat 04-May-19 21:35:16

When my nephew got married, I gave them some money but wanted to give a gift too. I chose a holiday or honeymoon kit: a smart canvas beach bag with two beach towels and some little travel extras like fancy luggage labels etc. Even if they have such items already, they soon wear out or get shabby and a new set will be welcome (if they like holidays!).

Tangerine Sat 04-May-19 21:41:41

What about vouchers for the theatre? People often don't get round to be booking theatre trips but, if they have a voucher, they go.