son on exchange programme

I am afraid however much you would like to help it’s not your problem.

the problem is as they are already having difficulties he does not like it that she will not go an see him, this would definitely help with the marraige, he has already spent a significant amount of money to get there, rent accommodations so she will have a place to stay.if she was not going over than it would not have mattered.

Like I said before too little information, drip, drip. Why do her parents have to pay for HIM to visit his WIFE, what nonsense. Sorry there's far more going on here than we're being told.

When I went on an exchange for several months to Berlin- it was only following long conversations and OH and DDs, one at Uni the other still at home finishing A'Levels - and it was a fabulous experience.

I should just keep out of this and voice no opinions.

no-one can give advice on this situation surely - as none of us have any idea of what the real circumstances are.

Why on earth would her folks have to pay for his travel to go see his wife. Think there is more to this than you know or are letting on about.

Yes, she did not want him to go, and her folks have paid for her to go over, they live in uk, this is the first time he has been away sine they married a few years back.They have been having issues in there marriage for a while as she prefers to spend more time with her parents than husband, had she not been going to the same country as he is in there would be no problem, he is happy to go and meet her if her folks paid for him to travel. she will be about 3 hours away from where he is.

Are you a new poster Fatso?
If so, welcome

Depends on size of country and how simple and safe it is for her to travel. Also depends whether she sees him regularly - is this one of several visits when she has seen him previously? Also depends on why he is there (did he choose to go against her wishes?), why/who she is visiting (e.g.sick parents, etc.). Has she already been to see him, did he neglect her whilst she was there?
Why can't he travel to see her (does she feel it's his turn?)?

There are so many unknown factors that it's not possible to say.

Thing is, how much would you expect or be able to influence the outcome anyway? It's their problem, I'd have thought. They have to sort it.

1) Just because its the same country doesn't mean it's 20 minutes away. It could be hours.

2) He can visit her.

3) If my husabnd threatened divorce because I wasn't doing as he wanted, he would be told what for.

I suspect there is more to it than your brief description maybe she didn't want him to go and he ignored everything she said. Whatever is going on it's impossible to give an opinion on so little information.