There has been no suggestion whatsoever that the d.i.l.'s father be punished Summerlove. As other posters have said, the little boy could have given his card to his GF when the other GF wasn't present.
I really don't understand why you feel the d.i.l.'s behaviour in this situation is beyond reproach but we can agree to disagree.
If you've ever experienced of this kind of behaviour, the constant drip feeding of seemingly insignificant incidents that leave you feeling you can't say anything, because if you do you'll be accused at best of over reacting and at worse being seen as the problem, you'll know just how insidious it can be.
I agree annepl that this d.i.l. knows exactly what she's doing and why. Like you we're also unfortunate to have personal experience which resulted in our son going no contact 6.5 years ago.
We miss him and our only GC but are thankful that we no longer have to deal with his wife.
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Should women have equal pay and opportunities?
To think that London, or anywhere else for that matter, does not belong to any one demographic