With friends like her/him, who needs enemies?
It's very true, people who are unkind, spiteful, or enjoy putting us down just aren't worth spending time with. The knock on effect is that you end up feeling low, unloved, and used. I have dropped a couple of 'friends ' over my lifetime, they were people who appeared to not be able to stop themselves from being unkind or sarcastic or demeaning. Eventually you get fed up with it and realise life's too short. Only keep the friends who you enjoy being with and who make you feel good about yourself. And hopefully they feel good about spending time with you.
village gossip being twisted - some people love drama
Don't consider myself elderly - how about "mature" instead?
Food is like a drug to me - fat shaming