A dog for problem child.

It would not be fair on the dog! The child is too young to take it out for a walk so it would be the mother. A definite no from me.

I doubt that a dog would help. It would probably be neglected, even mis-treated and poor old mum would have the job of taking care of it.

Unless he has a definite medical problem, he just needs the right handling. Indulging him will just make his behaviour worse.

I've heard of several people with children on the autistic spectrum getting a dog for the child and it did seem to help. Obviously as long as the needs of the dog were properly met. One dog programme on the tv featured such a case but I'm afraid I can't recall which programme it was.

No. The last thing a stressed parent needs is an extra responsibility. Try getting help for the child from school and/or the doctor.

kirkubbin
The short answer is YES!
My DGS has autism and a pet was recommended, they got a cat ( as being easier than a dog) although he would love a dog to take for walks.
He loves all animals ( most children do, but especially those on the spectrum.) He is gentle and caring with animals and relates to them ( they don’t need conversation and don’t judge)?It made a big difference to him.

Help has been very hard to get,no official diagnosis and the appointments have a long wait.

There is a charity that matches the right sort of dog to an individual child. I know several families with autistic children who have really benefited. I can't remember the name of the charity though. Old age!

To be honest, it would help the OP if only posters with any experience of autism in the family ( and getting a pet) post comments on here.
Obviously the boy’s mother would have to like animals and be happy to have one in the house.

That sounds an excellent idea Jane10

Its too big a gamble what if the lad didn’t like the dog or what if the brothers quarrelled over it what if he got angry with the dog (had a melt down) I think this needs a lot more thought for both the dog and the mother s sake
Are you the grandmother? Have you a dog? has the boy been around dogs? Has he said he wanted one? ? It’s unfair on the dog to be used in such an unknown situation
I would test the water with friends’ dogs or yours if you have one before even considering one of his own

lemongrove kircubbin says the boy may be a bit autistic I don’t think that should bar others from expressing their viewpoint

I would begin by looking at local charities and groups for children with such problems. We have a teaching farm near us where the children come for experience, get used to the animals and parents / carers can quietly chat with experienced staff about getting a pet.

kirkubbin yes, an official diagnosis is extremely hard to get which places an impossible burden on the family.
My DGS did get one, because his mother kept plugging away at the authorities, but you have to be single minded about it.
Meanwhile, if you haven’t done already, read up on the subject and contact the Autism Society.That will help you come to a conclusion about his behaviour.Good luck.?

What helps a person with ASD works as well for any child - structure, predictability and calm.
The charity I was talking about was very, very careful to match child with dog. They had almost a library of all sorts of dogs in all shapes, sizes and temperaments. There were some lovely outcomes. Not as easy as just 'getting a dog' though!

Before actually getting a dog it might be worthwhile them becoming a 'friend' in a local dog charity - such as The Dogs Trust.
They often need help with exercising the dog in their care. It would an opportunity to for this child to interact with dogs whilst his family observe the effect on him.
It would avoid the possibility of having to rehome a dog if actually getting him his own dog did not work out.

I'm not keen myself as I agree Mum would do most of the work.I don't live near them so can't offer practical help.

What a disaster waiting to happen
How unfair to the other child.

I have several friends with autistic children. As one of them says, when you know one autistic child, you know one autistic child. Children with autism are as different as anyone else so what goes for one child doesn't necessarily go for another.

I know of someone who had to rehome her beloved dog after it became a target for her autistic child. It doesn't always work out well.

If a dog was brought in then it should be a "family" dog. Not, in this situation just for one particular twin.

A lot will depend on why the child is being a problem for his mum. None of us know that. It may be related to losing his father, or a hundred other reasons.

As long as the mother thinks a dog would be safe, and not maltreated in any way by the children, if the family want a dog - then get a dog.

Maybe they could start by getting a smaller animal which would be less work, but would teach the children how to care for a pet.

Why jump to a dog? Start with a couple of hamsters - one each and see how it goes.

Cross posted with wildswan.

I think the autism has no bearing on whether a child will love, be gentle and care for an animal.
Just like everyone else, some love animals, some are indifferent, and some are nervous.

GS is on “The Spectrum” they got a dog and it has made a difference.

I agree with Mossfar try helping with the dogs at a rescue centre or visits to someone with a placid dog. I think it takes a while to get a support dog trained for a specific child.
Dogs can be a great help for children who have additional needs. I don't see why it should be necessary to get a dog for the other child as well.