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BBbevan Sat 26-Oct-19 15:04:29

Thanks agnurse. she is dieting.

Harris27 Sat 26-Oct-19 14:50:12

I was 45 and terrified but it had to be done because of what it was. There was a couple of complications mainly due to the heavy period side of the problem and I was quite emotional for some months after it. However no heavy bleeding and feeling terrible once a month you’ll be fine just don’t rush things as everyone is different. My sister was a lot better than me but in fairness I did have the extra complications. So you should be fine.

agnurse Sat 26-Oct-19 14:18:18

Larger women tend to have more problems with the surgery - higher risk of complications. That's my best guess as to why the weight loss.

BBbevan Sat 26-Oct-19 14:07:39

My DD , bespite really needing a hysterectomy, and being on the list, has been told that she must lose weight before they will operate. Does anyone know the reason why?

boodymum67 Sat 26-Oct-19 13:09:38

Hi, sorry you have to go through this, but I`m sure there are good reasons for it.

At 31, a smear test found a pre-cancer lesion in my cervix and a hysterectomy soon followed. At such a young age, my family and I were distraught. But luckily the cancer was halted and I didnt need chemo or anything else.

It did take quite a few months to recover and we`d already had the 2 children we wanted.

But all the same, it did take away the chance to have more if we wanted, so that was hard to take.

Just look after yourself and I hope you recover well.

Flossieturner Wed 23-Oct-19 09:53:30

I was 45 and I felt such a sense of relief. My advice is to remember it is a major operation. You may feel quite well very quickly but you still need to take it very easy for the full length of the recovery period. Because I felt and looked so well I felt guilty about sitting about, however as soon as I tried to do things (mop the floor) I was in agony.

NfkDumpling Wed 23-Oct-19 07:50:38

I had a complete hysterectomy in the 90’s. The feeling of elation and freedom was wonderful and I too danced down the sanitary aisles! I do remember being warned not to try to lift anything for three months, but in fact I couldn’t lift anything , so it wasn’t a problem. Been on oestrogen only HRT ever since, and that’s not been a problem either.

Good luck.

Marydoll Wed 23-Oct-19 07:45:14

I had a vaginal hysterectomy in my fifties, but retained my ovaries.
As had been said, we all have different reactions, but it was the best thing I ever did. My quality of life improved dramatically.

Just make sure you do exactly as advised and don't over do things. You need to be patient.

My very best wishes for a successful conclusion.

GrandmainOz Wed 23-Oct-19 07:36:16

Thankyou so much ,ladies

Jessity Wed 23-Oct-19 04:15:12

I had a vaginal hysterectomy in the 1980s when I was in my mid 30s. It followed years of agonising pain and heavy and prolonged periods.

I never regretted it, never shed a tear. The relief was wonderful and I still recall the delight of bypassing the sanitary protection shelves.

We are all different and can only report our own situation but for me, despite being so young, it was one of the best things I’ve ever done.

BBbevan Wed 23-Oct-19 02:50:34

.My DD is waiting to go in for a complete hysterectomy. She is in her early 50s. She says she too feels sad and tearful. I suspect it is because she has been unable to have children . I had a hysterectomy many years ago and was fine afterwards.

agnurse Wed 23-Oct-19 01:45:15

PSA: Ladies, ensure that you know whether or not you still have a cervix! (Sometimes they don't take everything.) If you still have it you'll still need smears. If you don't have a cervix BUT the hysterectomy was for cervical cancer, you should still have a vaginal vault smear periodically. (If the hysterectomy was not for cervical cancer and you don't have a cervix you likely don't need a smear.)

Joelsnan Tue 22-Oct-19 23:42:13

Gosh, it was the best thing. I had a new lease of life. I took HRT for a year after and didn’t really have any difficult menopause symptoms.
I had an abdominal op. Recovery was quick I think it’s because they use much better anaesthetics.
Post op I just thought how cats and dogs just ‘get on with it’ after spaying and that’s what I did, daft maybe, but it worked for me.

Nortsat46 Tue 22-Oct-19 23:21:16

I had a total hysterectomy in 2014 and it was much more straightforward than I had imagined.
However, I do remember well, the few days beforehand, the waiting and the lonely anxiety (despite being surrounded by loving family and friends).

The operation was went well and I was sitting up in a chair the following morning. I went home after 3 days and returned to work after 6 weeks.
Indeed it was remarkably manageable. I was a bit tearful from time to time and was tired from the anaesthetic for a week or two. However, there was no pain. I was discharged with only paracetamol and ibuprofen and they were absolutely enough for my pain management.

The biggest issue for me was constipation. Make sure you take something quickly, if you have signs of constipation. I also got a urine infection, so watch for that too.

I am not a brave woman, but I found the whole process far less difficult than I expected.
Try not to worry, relax when you are able. This will pass and you will move forward from it, in a much more positive position. Good luck and all good wishes ... 💐

Doodle Tue 22-Oct-19 23:09:24

How did I feel emotionally, ecstatic! No more periods, no more fibroids. Also one less thing to worry about. Hope your op goes well. Take it easy after, no heavy lifting and get well soon 😊

Grammaretto Tue 22-Oct-19 22:59:03

I had a hysterectomy, but not ovaries so I didn't have any HRT. Mine was for a prolapse not disease.
I had it vaginally and was instructed to be very careful about lifting anything heavier than a kettle for 6 weeks afterwards. I was very obedient and the healing process went smoothly.
That was over 10 years ago. I was in my 50s.
Like you I was a bit tearful but ofcourse I was past the menapause so no more babies and no more periods, no more smear tests - thank God.

I hope yours goes well too and you make a full recovery. Remember to take care of yourself and get others to help.
Don't be running around too soon!! If you are careful now , you'll be running marathons in a year or so (or whatever you want)

Grannyknot Tue 22-Oct-19 22:17:11

Ladygracie you and me both smile. I'm 70 now.

Grannyknot Tue 22-Oct-19 22:16:04

I was 51 when I had a hysterectomy. HRT didn't agree with me and after several attempts with different scripts and no improvement in the side effects, I gave up and was fine without it. I've never regretted it, and it didn't affect me emotionally (or in any other way, other than the pleasure of no more heavy periods).

Good luck.

LadyGracie Tue 22-Oct-19 22:12:23

I had my total hysterectomy at 51 and can honestly say I had no problems whatsoever.

17 years on and I can honestly say I have had a new lease of life.

Wishing you the best of luck.

Tangerine Tue 22-Oct-19 22:00:07

I felt nothing emotionally but I was almost 60. Perhaps you are younger.

Hysterectomy was abdominal. It went well and, after 6 weeks, I could drive again and I felt very healthy.

I wish you the best of luck.

GrandmainOz Tue 22-Oct-19 21:55:58

I'm having a complete hysterectomy on Monday. Very nervous. Surgeon hopes to do it laparotically but most likely it will be abdominal.
I am starting on oestrogen patches immediately after as I am not yet in menopause so hopefully with these I won't crash into surgical menopause.
Do any of you ladies have any practical tips from your own experience please?
Also how did you feel emotionally? I know I will be glad to be rid of the awful symptoms I'm currently suffering but I feel weirdly tearful about it (not like me!)