Which son for Christmas?

Go and see your sister with your son, because like me you are becoming increasing disabled and travel may soon be out of the question. I'm sure your son will be happy to give you a hand.
I fly to the Med twice a year. Here are a few tips.
Buy a four wheeled suitcase which swivels, so much easier than 2 wheels.
Plan very carefully what clothes you are going to take. I'm sure your sister has a washing machine if you need to wash anything!
Travel size shampoos etc. are in most supermarkets.
I have a crossbody Kipling handbag, really lightweight, so I'm hands free going through the airport. Inside my jacket I have a tiny crossbody handbag that just holds a tiny purse, your passport and some tissues. Mine is a Kipling Alvar. (Have a look on ebay and you'll see what it's like). I have 2 knee replacements and prefer extra leg room seats, well worth the money BUT you can't put your handbag under the seat in front of you, it has to go in the locker. My Alvar bag can stay hidden on me. Enjoy your trip.

Sorry but Christmas is for children. I personally would say older son and grandchildren for Christmas.
I wish I had had more Christmas days with my grandparents. The grandchildren grow up so quickly.
Could your sister and niece and younger son not come to your house?
But decision is yours. I picked up reading between the lines you want to go to your sisters.
Whichever choice have a fantastic Christmas with lots of memories. Xx

I think you should go to the one you usually spend it with. You're part of their Christmas now and all your future Xmas's are therefore assured. Break the pattern now and you may find they enjoyed xmas without you and want to do it that way more often. (Sorry just being blunt for clarity not brutality). Or the children will be sad you're not there where they feel you belong at xmas. Can I assume that the younger son is not actually being excluded from the family christmases and could join you at your other son's house if he wanted to? I'd not like to think of him as the one who is always left alone at xmas.

I think you should go with your younger son. It is an opportunity not to be missed. I'm sure you could have a pre or post "Christmas" with your much loved grandchildren. (They might even like that as they could get two Christmasses)!

Well here I come being awkward.

I read your post and immediately thought you had to go to son number 1 that you've celebrated with for the last 16 years.

I was thinking of the children.

I have so many memories of wonderful Christmas's as a child. With my Grandparents.

Had they suddenly decided to go somewhere else I'd have been devastated.

I can see your dilemma but I'm in Camp older son

Good luck with whichever choice you make!

I think you should go - you say that your health isn't the best and it would probably be the last time you travel so why not go with your younger son. I am sure your older son and family will understand and perhaps you could have a second Christmas with them either before you go or when you return?

I think you should go. You may not be well enough to travel there again. You are not chosing between your sons. Everyone has been invited and it is your sons choice that he and his family will not be going. You will have plenty more Christmases with them I'm sure

My sons are in similar positions, and it turned out that my younger son felt quite left out because Christmas always revolved around the grandchildren.

Your younger son can't put on a 'family Christmas' for you, but you and he can enjoy one together and have a wonderful time doing something different.

I'm sure your grandchildren will understand that it's Uncle X's turn to have Christmas with granny this year.

Definitely go, you’ll regret it if you don’t. You’ve spent plenty of time with your older son, I’m sure he’ll be fine. There’ll be more Christmases, but this opportunity may not come up again, or next year, you may not be able to travel. Enjoy!?

Toss a coin, as it lands you’ll know which one you want in your heart, go with that x

The answer is obvious. You have spent 16 Christmases with one son. Now it is the younger's turn - plus the opportunity to see many other members of your family, if you are finding travelling getting less easy, grab the oppportunity to see them again while you can.

Please, do accept your sister's invitation and go there with your younger son. You are already having problems travelling alone, and don't mention whether your sister has too.

This is a good chance to see her.

Frankly, I am a little surprised that you have spent 16 Christmases with your married son, apparently without his brother. Perhaps I misunderstood, and it isn't any business of mine either, but to me it sounds as if it is high time for a change.

Agree with Bluebell

I can understand how you must feel, but seeing that you have spent the last 16 years with your eldest son, I think it's a wonderful opportunity to spend it now with your youngest and seeing your sister and her family. I a man sure your older son will understand and why not already arrange a family get together for when you get back, something to look forward to! Enjoy it!!

Go. YOLO! You Only Live Once! That is the motto of our family and we try to appreciate these sorts of decisions in that context.
Talk to your older son and explain how much you love having Christmas with his family but would like to embrace this opportunity whilst you can. You never know, his wife might be thrilled with the thought of having a Christmas off without feeling she has to stand on ceremony for the in-laws!

I'd go with your son with no kids etc to your sisters.
As you said, you are beginning to struggle with travelling and as he is happy to go - ample chance to have an unpaid porter!
Why not have an extra Christmas with your son with kids either before Christmas or at New Year?

I alternate my Christmas with daughters and grandchildren with her in-laws. This year I will be with her. My other husband also with a granddaughter wants to spend Christmas at home so are not going. I am secretly quite happy as will be lovely to spend Christmas with them individually, as last year I didn’t see either which was hard. Next year it means I will spend Christmas with my other daughter which will be lovely. This year we will do our Christmas on 27th.

In your position I think I would go

I agree with everyone else too. Seems like its unanimous jillybird. Tell your family what you have decided and why. They will understand and you will be able to sleep. Enjoy Christmas.

Yes go, your son and daughter in law will be fine without you, your grandchildren will miss you for sure, but you can FaceTime them.
I too have an unmarried son, and I always feel a bit sad for him at Christmas, go and enjoy.

Golly, it would be a no brainer for me. Your younger son must be delighted at the prospect of finally getting to spend a Christmas with his mum. I'd be packing my bags in anticipation.

I'm in the position of having two similarly placed sons and am fortunate that they are best friends; the unmarried son is always included in his brother's plans and joint Christmases are the order of the day. Fortunately I have the loveliest daughter-in-law who also has an unmarried brother and she has ensured they have invited both brothers to spend time with them at Christmas and even go on holidays with them.

I agree with the others too, you should take the opportunity to visit your sister with your younger son. Your older son has his own family around him on Christmas day, and will no doubt still have a lovely day, even though he may miss having you there.

Things change. After spending every Christmas with both of my kids since they were born (both now adults, one married with our first GC, the other in a relationship), this year, my hubby and I have had to make a difficult decision about where to spend Christmas. My family are now spread far and wide and, as of this year, it's no longer possible for us all to be together over Christmas/New Year. I think there comes a time in most families, once your kids grow up and have their own families, you have to start alternating, or doing something completely different. You've been lucky enough to spend the last 16 years with your older son and his family ... doing something different this once isn't going to spoil your relationship with him. Just explain to him that you may not have the opportunity to go again, and you would like to visit your sister and it will be much easier for you having your younger son to help with your luggage, etc.

I do totally understand how you feel, and I've been kept awake myself worrying about what my hubby and I should do. But once we'd made the decision, and told everyone our plans, I felt a whole lot better! We're actually looking forward to doing something different. I still feel sad that we won't all be together, but I'm looking at it as the start of new traditions.

Go to your sisters and enjoy a different kind of Christmas ... you can always go to your other son's again next year.

I agree with the other two posters. You’ve spent the last 16 with the eldest and now it’s the youngest ones turn. Also with your mobility decreasing make sure you make the most of what you can do now. Go have a wonderful Christmas with your sister and youngest son.

Yes go!
Have fun. You have enjoyed past years with one son and now it’s your pleasure to enjoy it with the other.

I agree with BlueBelle as you should go while you're still able to or you might regret it later.