I appreciate that if you have no children or are looking forward to a bleak Christmas this will seem a wonderful problem to have and I apologise now if it upsets you. Perhaps just pass on by.
I just don't know what to do for Christmas. I must decide quickly as plans are being made. Older son has three children and a lovely wife with whom I have spent every Christmas for the last sixteen years, either at their house or at mine. I dearly love my grandchildren and feel very close to them. (Yes, I know I'm lucky). Number two son has no wife and no children. (A succession of long-term girlfriends has led nowhere.) We have all been invited to spend Christmas with my sister, my nephew, my niece and her children who live a short flight away. Older son says they can't afford it because there are five of them and what would they do with the dog, ( I am their dog-sitter and I would be away too). He also says the children would prefer to be at home. Younger son is definitely going - he is close to his cousin and loves small children - she has a 3yr old and a 5yr old. I am torn between them. I feel sad that my younger son has no wife, no girlfriend to travel with and I know he wants me to go. I am becoming disabled and struggling to carry a suitcase so it's unlikely I'll ever go again on my own. I like to see my sister from time to time and I'm very fond of my niece but I can't help feeling my heart torn in two. I want to be in both places with both halves of my family.
Although I have read other threads on here about Christmas with people saying "it's no big deal It's just one day, etc., etc.", to me it IS a big deal. It's a special magical time and I have visions of me being in one place with one son and half the family and feeling wretched because I miss the other son and the other half of the family. I adore my grandchildren.
I repeat, I know I am spoilt, but this is keeping me awake nights worrying (from 2 am - 6am last night.)
Should I go or should I stay?
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