When to step back

Just part of the daily routine for my three, but I have to nag my grandchildren a bit more, especially the girls, I wonder if it’s sudden shyness, they are cousins, and share a bedroom and a bathroom when they’re here, but at ten, they’re a little old for jumping in the bath together!

Now I come to think of it, I can't even remember when our 2 started their periods. They just seem to have got on with it.
I suppose I must have bought them pads or tampons and told them how to dispose of them. We were all so busy, working fulltime etc.
I'm going to ask them about it.

I would advise your dd to leave her to it.
Pick your arguments is the best advice.
Although …... my dh had skin problems and was told by a skin specialist that he showers too often and should not have the water too hot.
Problem solved,so at least she won`t have that problem.

I would just leave her to it, there is nothing like nagging for making a teenager dig their heels in.
I hear this all the time " why won't he/she go and shower when I tell them " ? Would you bathe when someone tells you ?

Just wait for her to get a boyfriend. You'll not be able to get her out of the bathroom

Just leave her to it would be my suggestion. It's an available area that Mum clearly cares about, to "rebel" over.

Good point ClareAB .

It will sort itself out. This time next year, you won't be able to get her out of the bathroom. I think some teens need a bit of time before they become fully aware of their bodies and necessities.

Went to hug my 13-year old grandson and stepped back saying ‘your hair smells love’ . Apparently he washed it that night. Went to give him a hug just now ‘you smell good’ I said.

Big smile. We need to be honest. But not in a nasty way.

Yes. I think that's fair. Tip toeing never did anybody any good.

You could try her with some of these The novelty value alone might make her want tom get in the shower.

Lush, and other places, also make bars of shampoo for the eco warriors amongst us. Maybe that would light her candle. You can use the shampoo as body wash too.

Never had any personal hygiene problems but my son wasn’t very keen on changing his sheets or airing his bedroom till he got a girlfriend. The pictures of Sandra Bullock in a bikini came down off the walls too