Boomerang children

Personally I’d always give my DCs a home, as long as they paid their way and did a fair share of the chores.
A bit like the Mum played by Jean Bott, in the sit com Bread.

Yes Gagajo . Lack of privacy, expense ,mess , exactly do my head in too . And I too never went back to my mums after going though 2 divorces . I think I must be a soft touch .
I don’t charge my 29 year old rent as he’s saving to buy a property but yes that does have an impact on me . And it seems to be taking a long time . Thanks for your advice . And like you said maybe take the 38 year old temporary. If it doesn’t send me insane ?x

When I say I’ve had enough . I mean there has been no peace in my life for 38 years . I’d like to have my home to myself and tidy etc . I love all my children and always help but this time I’ve said no and I feel terrible for not helping

Free hotels? I understand the youngest at University might not be able to pay rent but is the 29 year old unable to do so?

Would the 38 year old be able to pay at all?

I suppose a lot depends on how your children treat you, your partner and also your home. Also, on how well you get on with your children in general?

Assuming you have the room, why not have the 38 year old back on a 3 month trial period. That ought to give him time to sort something out. Make it clear it can't be a permanent arrangement.

I appreciate it's hard for them, BUT I was in the position when I split from my ex and STILL managed not to go back to mum's, despite being on the breadline and potentially homeless at one point.

My daughter lives with me. I tolerate it because the upside is I get to see my grandson everyday. But the lack of privacy, mess, expense etc etc do my head in.