New user? Old user? Lurker? We'd love your views.

sodapop as are you. What would you suggest the 'own little club' could be called?

Yes Yaiyai it is.

I was answering the question posed to lurkers and new people, about why we don't post more.

Several of you say you "cannot understand the feeling ignored thing"

Well I don't suppose you would understand as I doubt you experience it yourself very often, as you are part of the regulars, and I see you chatting happily most days.

It's how I feel. When you aren't confident about posting and then have a go, to be totally ignored is a bit off putting. People may well read it, but I won't know. It results in me not bothering to post, which is what they are asking about.

Gaunt47
How about 'End of the line club' other suggestions gratefully received.

I post and read other forums. I'm accustomed to being ignored. I ignore others' posts when I have nothing to say. It is nice to be paid attention to and I like to be on my guard not to post because I want attention.

Gransnet, is however unlike these other forums as Gransnet obviously aims at mutual emotional support, which the other forums I go to do not. There should be a some sort of marker at the top of threads only for moral support, and excluding exchanges of opinions.

It’s difficult in the beginning seacliff when you see people merrily updating folks on what they’re up to on the Good Morning thread and getting responses from regulars and perhaps you’ve put something interesting on yourself and no one has commented.

It happens to me on a regular basis but I do realise I myself don’t comment on very many posts, I might mention one or two but more often don’t.

I’ve also managed kill a few threads stone dead with a reply or it’s gone off on another tangent because it’s an inconvenient truth and doesn’t fit the narrative so is plain ignored!

That’ll be the political threads of course and they can be a tad fractious which I don’t mind but I do abhor swearing and name calling which is unnecessary and undermines the argument in my opinion.

Keep dropping in and I’ll say hello next time

Oh thanks Pantglas2, what a kind reply. I know I shouldn't be so sensitive, it is just an online forum after all.

I used to feel like that too Seacliff, and can understand what you mean, but then realised that it was unrealistic to expect a comment on every single post I made.
If every post made was commented on, we would never have time to read them all!!!

There must be thousands of members on GN. Often people agree internally with posters, but don't feel that a response is expected or required.

The other thing to remember is that many posters don't have time to read all the threads and posts, so they just skim through them for a flavour of what's going on.

It's not a personal thing, when people don't respond to you. Other posters can't know that someone may be sensitive soul and needs a response.

To quote you: I see you chatting happily most days.

To become a regular, (if that is what you would like to be) you actually have to post, then people get to know your name. It doesn't have to be anything smart or clever, just a comment.
I'm well known for the inane drivel I sometimes post or the mess I can make of the games threads, but people do know my name! , albeit for the wrong reasons.
There is many a thread, I have stopped in its tracks. (Probably bored people to death).

I could get really upset that hardly anyone has acknowledged my very professional photos of yesterday's meet up on the Glesca Grannies thread, but I'm not taking it to heart. ? .

I know I'm not explaining this very well, just trying to encourage you to hang on in there!!

Thanks Marydoll, and I do understand what you're saying. I often don't have time to post. It's hard to type well on my phone so I use laptop when at home. So I will never be such a regular as some of you.

ps I did admire your 2 beautiful photos yesterday, I was quite envious of the great meet up you all enjoyed. Of course I didn't put it in writing either, so that kind of proves your point

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nice to put a face to some names,Marydoll alas I dont think you are MY Mrs McGinley your a decade or more too young.I almost dropped into your meetup but decided as you had booked for a certain number I'd wait until the next .

Paddyanne, you should have dropped in. There was plenty of room! We were already in the bad books for daring to push tables together!!!
Hopefully next time! ?
Glad to see you back!

Oh paddyanne as Marydoll says there was more than enough room for you to join us. It would have been lovely to meet you and a good blether works wonders for us all. Next time?

Well it's my first hour of my first day, it's fairly busy and very varied....
Time will tell if it's for me....

Seacliff
It's just the same as joining a new club/church/ get together.
We had a 'new' woman join our monthly get together. when she first joined the conversation was the usual 'hi ya, you ok, awful weather' But now, a year down the line she is a good personal friend.
It's just the same here, people have to get to know you.
I hope this helps bit.

I think we need to realise that Grannet is for everyone, we should not have to wait to fit in. A few posters do not represent or make Gransnet. We should not have to fit in with the regulars, they are posters like the rest of us.
I think Gransnet /moderators have seen there is a problem, their is alot of people registered on Gransnet who are not posting. Let's get over we have to fit in, keep posting and treat everyone with respect.
Also acknowledge all posters not just the ones you like or know. This thread alone say people feel ignored.

sodapop
Nice one! Or perhaps 'The Last Post' 'The Dead Hand' ?
(With apologies to other posters)

Maybe I just don't fit in for some reason
ViaYia Sorry to hear you have problems with the GM thread. Perfectly understandable, but all is not lost! Dip your toe into that new thread "Good Afternoon xxxxDay"; it doesn't matter what time of day; it can cater for insomniacs in all time-zones
You can still keep up with all matters domestic on the GM thread, of course. Love to hear from you!
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Gaunt47 think we have the same sense of humour, not always appreciated by others.

The Dead Hand. ? Love it!

Ooo look we've got Maggiemaybe on board Sodapop, so at least there are 3 of us

rafichagran, I think lots of people joing gn just to enter the competitions and have interest I posting.

I think joining anything new such as GN, WI, U3A does take time to settle in and feel comfortable. I know when I joined the WI it took me about a year to get to know everyone, get the feel for how it is run and find the people I related well to and who have become friends. I didn’t expect to be accepted immediately.

It took my youngest grandson about 6 months to feel at ease in his Primary School but now he is much more settled.

I enjoy my daily fix of Gransnet letters (tho these have stopped coming thru automatically - any solutions out there) Reading about problems that us grans experience and which I can relate too, makes me feel that I could always turn to GS to find sound advice and tips about dealing with my 6 grandchildren who vary in age. I post only occasionally and its usually a handy tip. I'm afraid I don't feel wise enough to offer advice.

With regards to people feeling that their posts may have been ignored, what about an Agree button (a bit smarter than Like). No ‘don’t like/don’t agree button though - a negative feeling warrants a (respectful) comment and maintains the debate.