Our marriage has been great/awful for 44 years we have 4 children.
My issue is that throughout that marriage we have both been busy busy busy and the problems we are seeing now are magnified as we are thrown together full time.
My Dh has always been selfish with his time (not money), he used to drink regularly in pubs and had and has many hobbies. He has never been one for suggesting days/nights out or walking or joint ventures of any kind.
He prefers his male company, harsh but true.
I have had a very successful career often traveling but always putting our children first which has resulted in me having a superb pension etc and a great relationship with my children as they have grown up.
I refuse to be the housekeeper, the cleaner, cook and bottle washer. Sadly, this is where I am, but fighting against it.
As I speak, my husband is out playing snooker, has two horses, attends country pursuits etc.
I like him having interests and hobbies, I too launched a book club, have good friends, look after my grandson and have a great relationship with the kids..
I am unhappy.
We live separate lives have different interests and whilst I suggest lots of joint days/evenings he never, ever does and is unenthusiastic as well.
I have had the required conversations.
We have had the rows and it is getting worse as I continue to manage the house, finances etc..
I am no wallflower, I Have sought a wide range of interests.
However, we lead separate lives and no matter how I raise it he says the right things but he doesn’t change. The last thing I need is a forced evening out just to tick a box.
My DH is content and just does his own thing..
I am still unhappy and nothing changes.
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