having granddaughter in bed with grandma and grandmas partner

There’s still no reason for the sarcastic rudeness -as said yesterday on the continuation of Naty’s Italian family dilemma, it’s always the same few. Someone point me to where it says they must ‘own’ every opinion on the site. And yes, I’ll continue to call their behaviour out.

Why the hostility

I wouldn’t describe the reactions as hostile, more as sceptical.
We’ve been asked to give our opinions on a situation which doesn’t impact directly on the OP and about which there is a dearth of information.

You will findmissfoodlove that when a poster appears genuinely in need of help, Gransnetters are quick to provide help, support and advice.
But we’re also aware that occasionally GN is targeted by others with ulterior motives, eg journalists fishing for comments or background to fill up their feature articles.

I’m not suggesting that this particular OP isn’t genuine, but past experiences have taught us to be wary.

The OP has asked our opinions to provoke discussion.
Why the hostility?
The reactions are very odd and rude.
The jury’s still out for me, cannot decide if it’s appropriate or not.

Welbeck said it at 01:18:24 It is not relevant to this question at all - we all know someone whose house was burgled, but that doesn't mean we refuse to live in a house, or to allow our children or grandchildren to enter one.

The OP is not relevant either, mostly because it is a third-hand question without enough info. Is this a random and temporary boyfriend, changed frequently? Or is it a loving and loyal long-term partner who happens not to have either a marriage certificate or a blood relationship to the child who seems to in the position of a grand-daughter? We don't know. Was the woman who told this story to the original poster woried about the man? We don't know. Were the girl's parents worried? We don't know.

How can anyone give a sensible answer to this? We can't, so I won't.

Yes its in Welbeck's post Gagajo
I think at 8 years old the child should not be encouraged to get into their bed.

Where does it say that she knew someone abused by grandfather? I could be being dim, but didn't see that bit.

welbeck I’m astonished at your post. You seem to be saying that because you personally know someone who was abused by his grandfather, no child should ever climb into bed with its grandparents....really?

OP I’m not going to comment except to say that while we should all be alert to the necessity of safeguarding children, in the absence of any disturbing evidence, it’s none of your business what your former colleague and her partner do in the privacy of their home.

Slightly dodgy I think. Grandma, fine. Random man who is her boyfriend, not fine. If I was mum, I wouldn't be happy.

I worked with a woman...

If you have no interest, do t post your opinion. RUDE!!!!!!!

She was an old woman BlueBell.........perhaps she died. So sad ?

I knew a woman who swallowed a fly I don’t know why she swallowed a fly .......
Dah dum diddly dum dum

Exactly maw. Not sure of the real purpose of the op.

did e mother know about that.
I would not be happy with it.
even if they were actually related.
I knew a man who was sent as a small child to stay with his grandparents. where he was abused by his grandfather. it was only many years later that he found out that the same thing had happened to his brother. he felt so bad about it. felt he was very evil. and the only way to try to be right with god was to be as holy as possible, so at the age of eight he applied to be a priest. the supervisor said he was too young. to come back when he was 11. which he did. into junior seminary. then senior, ordained. spent his life as a priest, no romantic life, no children. a lonely life. trying to atone.
sorry gone off topic. so much sorrow and sadness in the world. he only told me while he was driving. no eye contact.

What response do you expect to get?
Sharp intake of breath?
Pearl clutching?

TBH I am neither interested nor do I have an opinion about what somebody I don’t know who knows somebody I have never heard of tells me about a third party I am not likely to know.

It is none of my business