I have six nieces and nephews, the youngest is about to be 21 and has a party this weekend to which I am invited. Over the weekend there was a post on FB where all the girls had gone out for the day, including my nieces female cousin, her Mum and her other aunts. I wasn’t invited, knew nothing about it and feel rather hurt.
I know that this will have been instigated by my Sister-in-Law who makes it clear at every occasion that she doesn’t like me. I have no idea why. My older brother married his childhood sweetheart who also happened to be one of my best friends as a child. For many years she has grown increasingly cold and sharp with me and I have no idea why. It’s got to the point I don’t really like going around even though I love my brother and nephews and nieces dearly. I used to love my Sister-in-Law, but how can you love someone who just shows at every opportunity that they despise you.
The last time I went round I was chatting to my brother and mentioned that I hadn’t done something because I had a lot on and she nearly ripped my head off saying that we were all busy and I wasn’t the only one who has a lot on. I had never suggested otherwise. I feel like I am walking on eggshells whenever I am around her constantly worried about what I say.
My natural inclination would be to try to talk to her and find out if I have inadvertently offended her (I can be a bit tactless) but my younger brother says it’s not personal and she is just an anti social git who would rather have her immediate family around her, her siblings and no one else. She did have a difficult childhood and has some issues that have never really been resolved IMHO.
What should I do? Talk to her, or let sleeping dogs lie. No point talking to my older brother, I love him dearly but he has a tendency to put his head in the sand and will deny there is an issue.
Advice welcome please.
