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phoenix Fri 17-Apr-20 17:46:46

My lovely neighbour (couldn't ask for better, even though her taste in garden ornaments is questionable confused) works in a local care home, and tends to be assigned to the ones with dementia, as she is very good with them.

Her daughter has just gone into labour (a week overdue, poor love) so neighbour has gone to look after the 2 children so that SIL can take wife to hospital and be with her for the birth.

BUT, as I was telling her to give them my love (from my doorstep) her son and his girlfriend who lived with her were also getting in the car!shock

I did ask why, was told "Oh they want to come to see G & N" (the children)

Right, wrong or what?

SirChenjin Sat 18-Apr-20 21:20:31

Sometimes venting or ranting on GN is cathartic, and at other times it’s just reassuring to know you’re not the only one who thinks X.

2mason16 Sat 18-Apr-20 21:42:00

So sad your neighbours are flouting the rules. I can't believe the high rates of the spread in the UK.
Since all this happened we have been stuck in Australia waiting for flights back but we aren't rushing!
We live near Bolton Lancashire. The death rate at one hospital there is higher than the whole of Victoria where we are!! Victoria is roughly the size of the UK and there have been about 20 deaths. People here are being so very careful - I wish it was the the at home.

Callistemon Sat 18-Apr-20 21:44:40

So, absthame, he's not even at home in either of those places! shock
Official flat, PM's country residence. Neither his own home.

Oh dear.
Perhaps he failed his geography 'O' Level.

Callistemon Sat 18-Apr-20 21:50:38

harrigran I haven't left my house for ages either.

But I'm not moaning about it.
Teacheranne says she is not in the vulnerable group so is able to go out, does not, but complains about it.

Grammaretto Sat 18-Apr-20 22:17:26

I am very annoyed with your neighbour but i think by having to explain herself to you, she must know she's wrong and may think another time.
We are shielding due to DH health but today i peered out at the main road and was shocked to see so many cars. Where is everyone going? They have become entitled. The DIY store/buiders yard was open. Garages.
I am as confused as anyone or is it just me? People are climbing mountains in the highlands, I'm told.
Do 1000 deaths a day mean nothing?
It feels like the first world war when they read the death list every day in the paper and then just carried on sending more to their fate.
When will we ever learn?

Daisyboots Sun 19-Apr-20 00:19:07

My 12 year old DGD obviously has more sense than the OPs neighbours. My DGSs wife is now overdue with my latest greatgranddaughter and my DD needs to be there to look after their young son while they are at the hospital for the birth. Two weeks before the birth both families had self isolated. Wednesday still no baby and my SiL had to go back to work so it meant my DD had to move to her DSs house in case he brought the virus home. My DGD was asked what she wanted to do and her reply was "stay at home like I am supposed to". Still no sign of baby arriving. The hospital will look at the situation on Wednesday if she has not arrived by then.

grannyornot Sun 19-Apr-20 12:31:32

What about unpaid carers who like after elderly parents, I still have to take food to my parents and serve it to them as they are both in poor health and are unable to care for them selves.
this is something we have done for the last 15 years, unable to suitable carers from council due to culture needs.

icanhandthemback Sun 19-Apr-20 12:38:58

SirChenjin, ringing stores at the moment is useless as they aren't asking. Yes, he was doing his job but coming from a store which promoted their lanyards for the Autistic, it was a bit of a surprise that the Manager wouldn't let my son speak to explain. I wish I could alleviate the problem by looking after my DGS but I am part of the vulnerable group. I suggested my son email the store to tell them what had happened but my son, having recovered from his embarrassment, didn't want to make a problem for somebody who was trying to do their job to the best of his ability. He's much nicer than I am. wink

Silverlady333 Sun 19-Apr-20 13:02:45

I have neighbours diagonally opposite to me. They live on a corner and their back gate is in the other street. At the beginning of the lock down these people decided to have friends around in their garden in the evening. The woman living next to them informed me and we were both horrified. The next day they had a bbq with friends in their their back garden. I saw them walking in a square formation walking up the street 2m apart. Then the husband went in through the front door while she ushered the others around to their back door out of sight. However she turned around and saw me (we were outside our garage) and she looked very sheepish. The woman living next door to them put a scathing post on another media site about people clapping for the NHS on a Thursday evening and then having friends around for a bbq at the weekend. I can't repeat the language but suffice to say it was rather blue. I posted that I agreed with the sentiment. Apparently these two neighbours are friends on the same site, which is why the the good neighbour posted it. Well it worked! They bad neighbours had not had anymore socialising with others not in their household!

Daisyboots Sun 19-Apr-20 13:05:23

icanhandthemback I think the store manager was being unreasonable in not listening to your son although some people are making up all sorts or stories to beat the system. My DD works for Tesco which has the only one person to do the shopping policy. Of course people are trying to get round the system by each taking a small trolley and putting items in both of them. The other day they had a family of 3 do this. Of course they then all wanted to go through the same check out which wasnt allowed because of social distancing to protect the cashier. They caused such a fuss and were totally unreasonable and rude to the staff. I just dont understand why people cannot respect the rules that are put in place to protect everyone.

Callistemon Sun 19-Apr-20 13:31:59

Some people are shopping for their vulnerable neighbours or have set up volunteer groups to shop for people in the area.

Going in alone and juggling two trolleys when shopping for other people isolating for good reasons would not be easy, so if a couple from one household go in together in order to help others, then that should be allowed.

SirChenjin Sun 19-Apr-20 13:56:58

Daisy my brother in law works for Tesco too and has been shouted and sworn at by customers and has heard every reason and excuse under the sun. I’m sure that the manager had probably had a day of it and was only following the rules. I’m surprised that the store didn’t pick up the phone as there are certainly staff there to answer it, but perhaps they were busy dealing with the sort of customers that cause the problems my BiL deals with on a daily basis.