Does anyone live in unsociable neighbourhood

It's not a matter of having a superior attitude at all. Some people are gregarious and like to be surrounded by others. Other people prefer to keep to themselves.
I find your attitude rather narrow-minded, and intolerant of the differences between people.

Couldn't agree with you more, Anne P1. I'd move there post haste! It's just too quiet here. I want my remaining years to be HAPPY. Help, please.

Sounds like you live in a nice place, Whitewave 2....where's that? That business of coming out to clap is a good indicator...I was the only one in our Close. Neighbours have helped but generally keep themselves to themselves but that sounds better than offensive people.

When I was a young mother we lived on a council estate. We didnt run in and out of each others houses but we all walked to school together to drop off and collect children. We had Tupperware and Elizabeth Alexander parties and they were great craic. If anyone was ill the others helped out by shopping, collecting schoolchildren etc. If it rained we brought each others washing in.
I wonder are any neighbourhoods still like that.

I've only lived in this house for 1 year, having moved from a small village where I'd lived for over 40 years. I've been amazed at how friendly and welcoming neighbours here have been, particularly during lockdown. Everyone who passes says hello and usually stop for a brief chat. My immediate neighbours have gone above and beyond to make me welcome and have helped to make me feel more "at home" here. The wider neighbourhood have had garage, shed and loft clear outs and have left good, usable items such as toys, books, gardening equipment, plants, household stuff etc at the end of their drives for anyone to take, free of charge.

I live on a development of houses that share communal gardens that roll down the River Thames where there are moorings, some have boats, not us Naturally we are all see each other far more in the summer. Our neighbours are pretty much super friendly, I've become more aware of this during the past 10 weeks or so and we've had joint efforts in sharing kachering , actually it's ours, but we've had a lot of quid pro quo with help in other areas. It's pretty international round my way and everyone, as far as I'm aware get on, one neighbour started a "Whatsapp" group for us all to share local information, mainly shopping related during the lockdown. A couple of burglaries also brought everyone together in a joint effort to warn others of any out of the ordinary comings and goings. All in all I'd say everyone here are quite pro active as far as mutual help is concerned and contrary to what people say, here in the south we do talk to each other!

I have never felt at home in the village I live in, over 40 years I have lived here in the same house.

It’s the type of village that unless you were born here you don’t belong.

Since lockdown I have been dabbling in a bit of family research and I have found out my great grandparents were actually born in the village. ?

I know how you feel old woman. I live in a long rd so plenty of people around...but thursday night we only see about 4 people..which I just cant understand...I cant put my finger on why no one mingles ... i just find it a bit depressing..

Looks like I’m on my own here but that’s not unusual.
Our neighbours are not close by. I chat if I meet them.
I don’t go out to clap. I think it’s silly. It reminds me of North Korea .
I would help you if you asked me. I’m not unfriendly .
I used to stop my kids from trick or treating because I thought the neighbours up the road wouldn’t like it especially in the dark if they lived alone.
I must have been different when young because I remember the street party for the Jubilee when we lived at our former house.
No one has asked if we need help but our daughters shop for us.
I realised how odd I am when my daughter told me this morning that she had facetimed my friend . I haven’t for months but when we meet it will be like yesterday. I’m a funny old stick. ?
Anyone else relate to this ?

We are lucky to live in a lovely supportive street. Next door are shielding and we’ve been doing shopping for them etc. We are running a “tab” for them as they have run out of cash. Last week we had local fish and chip delivery which we asked if they wanted too. Local support group collect prescriptions for them. All our street go out on a Thursday night for nhs clap. My neighbour opposite often asks if we need anything. We had a distant street gathering on VE Day where everyone kept the required distance but no music or anything.

We live on quite a busy road, and have been here for 25years. Most people that live nearby are young proffesionals, none have young children at the moment, although there have been one or two arrive over the years. Its not a bad place to live, most people have a big morgauge topay and tend to work long hours, and spend a lot of time out, so we dont very often see them to speak to. DH knows a few people that he used to work with before he retired, that sometimes stand and chat to him for a few mins if they see him out on the front, but its not an area where people visit each others houses for a cuppa and a chat, I honestly think that they simply do not have the time for that kind of thing, and to be honest, I prefare it that way rather than being at the centre of things like I was in our previous house, chief nanny, nurse, marriage guidence councellor, and keeper of dark secrets! I was a psychiatric nurse by proffesion, but it was also common knowledge amoungst my neighbours, who thought that if my car was on my drive, I was open for a free session of problem solving of whatever was bothering them at the time!
Not good when I had only just finished my shift on the ward, and needed some peace and quiet!

We used to live in a cul de sac and I enjoyed the friendships which are still continuing we though we moved 25 years ago! We live in a pleasant road but it's mainly working people so don't socialise hardly at all UNTIL the VE day celebration when many of us took our tables and chairs out the front and then wandered around talking to people - socially distanced of course - I'd never met before. Since then I've been invited to a neighbourhood online group and feel a lot happier than I have for ages

We live in a close of 30 houses. Though we're both over 70, there's been no note through the door or anything else. A neighbour did offer if we needed anything, to let her know one evening during 'the clap'. Nothing for VE Day.

In normal times, we might say 'Hi' to two or three neighbours if we see them in passing or vice versa. Otherwise it doesn't feel terribly community spirited round here.

A pity as you'd think that a close would be - er - closer, IYCWIM. Good thing we don't actually need help at this time.

It's sociable here. We've got a thriving community association and have regular outings and even publish our own magazine.
It's me that isn't very sociable though, I only join in occasionally although I do help deliver the magazine.
And I always go outside on Thursdays and clap for our wonderful NHS.

Our end of the Avenue all know each other quite well and send cards at Christmas. Yes, we’ve had offers of help with shopping and dog walking, and most of the street turns out on a Thursday.

Same here TrendyNannie small cul de sac, lived here 25 years, yet only speak to about 4 couples. They say morning if they can't pretend they haven't seen you, but it suits me, I'm the same!

I’d say ours is just right. We’ve had offers of help and shopping, and have a couple of phone numbers just in case, but they all know we are getting Sainsburys deliveries and can cope fine. Older neighbours are being looked out for. Plenty of passing chat when hanging out the washing and sitting in the garden. Swapping of plants and allotment produce, jam and chutney, and at the moment loans of books and exercise dvds. Most of us exchange Christmas cards, but don’t do street parties, which suits us fine. And there are occasional minor fall outs to keep us nosey neighbours entertained!

Oh , How I also wish we lived in an area that was more Socially Community Spirited .
Our Street is not a small tucked away one ,is pretty long around 120 Properties now consisting of an added block of Flats , We are also a Main route out of our Village & as such a Bus Route into the City. I have lived here since “86 My immediate Next door neighbour in her 60’s also has lived in the same house since Birth . The Neighbour to the left has lived here for around 20 plus years & so it continues down the Street . she’s odd anyway only speaks when you speak to her & the. It’s only about the weather .
As I always went to work full time I never got to know people on a personal basis just a nod & Hello .
Hardly anyone goes out to “Clap on a Thursday “ for the NHS a very sad show , VE Day was much the same .
Oh for the Days I lived in a London Street & we had a huge Street Party ( it was also a long Street ) With everyone contributing for The Queens Silver Jubilee or for the Royal Wedding in a much Smaller Street on a new Estate a Square of 13 or so Houses . What Lovely Community Spirit .

So it seems I’m not alone, I was beginning to think this neighbourhood was in the minority which is quite depressing in the current climate. I’m glad I asked the question, for the record I live in a middle class area in the Midlands surrounded by more ‘senior’ people. Heyho, keep smiling and carry on. Thanks everyone for your responses and take care ???

BradfordLass, if I lived near you I'd ask if you needed anything-

Of the 14 houses in this little cul de sac, only 2 of us don't have cars.
I don't know about my other non-driving neighbour but not one person has offered to shop for me.
I didn't really expect it though.

I used to know my neighbours when we all took our kids (then grandkids) to the local school. Many have moved away since.

Newcomers seem to drive everywhere and keep themselves to themselves, apart from a quick 'Hello'. Most of them work full time.

I do know many fellow dog walkers from surrounding roads, though. They frequently check that I'm OK and ask if I need anything - even those much older than me!

We live in London. Our neighbours are great. We have had several offers of help at this particular time but also on other occasions. On one side, my neighbour is very good at baking and often brings us rolls that she makes. When my husband came home from hospital the year before last, she used to bring round home made soup. We don't usually socialise with our neighbours in the sense of going out together (although we have done once or twice) but we always help each other when needed. They are very nice on the other side as well. It's a long road and, in general, people are pleasant and sociable.

My Mum lives in a village, where she's lived for around 50 years and her neighbours on either side have also lived there quite a long time. She has never been over the doorstep of the house next door and the neighbour on the other side is most unfriendly - although her husband is quite nice. Given my Mum's age - she's 99 - I think they could be a little more helpful and friendly. Villages aren't always the charming, community-minded little places that people think they will be.

My daughters friend regularly calls on the elderly neighbours. Last time she knocked the lady said " Oh it's you again" lol
I've found when I lived in cul de sacs it was nuch friendlier. In my present home we could be dead and no one would know. They all keep to themselves.
I lived in a council estate when we first married and neighbours were wonderful. If it rained they brought your washing in. When I was sick my neighbour brought a pot of stew for the children. We helped each other in lots of ways. People aren't like that now.

I asked our young neighbour if he would get a few essential things for us which he did. I asked him again about a week later and he did. AIBU to think he might offer maybe he thinks I'm a nuisance, I really don't like to keep asking.