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Issy Fri 24-Apr-20 11:58:04

Anyone happy to stay in lockdown for 12 to 18 months?

patriciageegee Sat 25-Apr-20 17:27:38

Read mine. There's a world of difference between considering possibly inherent susceptibilities in the genetic make up of the BAME community and the result of eugenics.

Eglantine21 Sat 25-Apr-20 17:28:59

Indeed. And very complex.

It is possible that gene therapy will ultimately provide a medical solution to the Covid19 virus if we can unpick why some succumb and others are unaffected.

Eglantine21 Sat 25-Apr-20 17:30:48

No actually scientifically there isn’t.

We have to look at all the evidence and possibilities. You can’t ignore some of them because they offend you. It renders the results useless.

patriciageegee Sat 25-Apr-20 17:43:30

Well scientifically there is. Eugenics is a crude, man made attempt to engender 'desirable' characteristics by selective reproduction and bears no resemblance whatsoever to cutting edge genetic coding available to science now.

Chameleon007 Sat 25-Apr-20 17:50:28

Thank you maddyone. Spoken at length to my friends other half today and we are going out for coffee in her memory.

Eglantine21 Sat 25-Apr-20 17:56:29

And your scientific qualifications are......?

Actually I think it quite disgusting that you are attacking me because I am a member of the BAME community.

BlueBelle Sat 25-Apr-20 17:57:34

Of course it’s not right patricia but that doesn’t mean it didn’t happen and could well have some bearing on results today No one here agrees with it you seem to be muddling that up just because someone writes down a fact it doesn’t mean they agree with that fact
I didn’t know that piece of history I do know Iceland have practically irradiated Downs by aborting babies that test for it
Another fact I don’t agree with before you jump up and down

As for ethnic differences to the virus there are so many variants Living conditions, living areas, jobs, Vitamin D deficiency, diabetics etc etc
Men seem to fare worse as they have lower immunity
Obese fare poorly
There are also question marks about whether it can be as simple as the amount of the virus you are exposed to, some people having it weakly could be down to them only picking up a few droplets while others may be picking up larger amounts from multiple people or multiple amounts from one person
I don’t know where this year comes from if they are waiting for a vaccine there is no guarantee they will find one that works or that the virus won’t mutate There are hundreds of permutations to this problem and it may be we have to chose between becoming a prisoner or taking a chance

Bluecat Sat 25-Apr-20 18:06:34

Many people are saying that they are fit and healthy, regardless of age. However, your immune system is less effective as you get older, therefore you are more likely to be seriously ill and die even if you don't have underlying health conditions. If you have a husband, you also have to bear in mind that that proportionally more men are killed by the virus than women, so consider his risk if you choose to stop isolating.

When the lockdown lifts, it is going to be a matter of individual choice. Do you want to risk it? No-one is going to lock you in your house. Personally, I dread being separated from my family for so long but I will do it, because I want a future with them. Sometimes I feel a sense of panic at the thought of months of separation, but I calm myself down by thinking that I am doing this now to give myself and DH a chance to see the kids grow up.

Obviously the virus hasn't gone away. The death rate is gradually decreasing because the lockdown is working, not because the virus is less. I think we need to give the scientists time to find an effective treatment, and not become collateral damage along the way.

patriciageegee Sat 25-Apr-20 18:17:57

Please take that back eglantine I am not 'attacking' you because you are a member of the BAME community in any way, shape or form. I have total respect for ALL communities and I am not attacking anyone anyone. We had a strong difference of opinion and I made my views quite clear without having any clue as to your ethnicity. I had no wish to know that information and I will not have you accusing me in this way.

Eglantine21 Sat 25-Apr-20 18:40:10

You attacking me because of my ethnicity? Why that’s almost as ludicrous an allegation as attacking someone because they postulate a scientific theory based on historical fact and current knowledge of the genetically engineered make up of a given nationality.

Where did I say that I approved of what had been state policy for many years.

But if you can come down off your high horse you will realise that because of that policy there is a very low rate of genetically inherited “underlying conditions’ in the Swedish population. Particully those born between the early fifties and the nineties, the former now entering what is considered a giunerabke age group.

Oh I don’t suppose there’s any use talking to you about Science and intellectual enquiry........

Eglantine21 Sat 25-Apr-20 18:41:29

And don’t presume to lecture someone brought up in. a Jewish household about the evils of eugenics{

ALANaV Sat 25-Apr-20 19:16:59

NO...its a horrendous prospect. I live on my own like a lot of you, in a flat without access to the locked down garden. I would rather take my chance …….and if there is testing EVER available for ordinary over 70s I would pay for it willingly so I could go out …...but if you think that is selfish …...we could still catch it from someone else. Personally I already have a DNAR notice on my medical records ...have had for years ….if I do live, and ever get a long term illness I am off to Dignitas …..personal preference for me ..

Grandmama Sat 25-Apr-20 19:52:45

I absolutely do not want to be locked up when restrictions are eased. As I've posted before, I have no underlying medical conditions, no medication, lower end of my weight range, walking several miles a day on my permitted exercise etc etc. Probably healthier than many people far younger than I am. I would rather take my chance. The scientists can't agree among themselves about the virus.

M14dymo Sat 25-Apr-20 20:15:01

I totally agree with you. We may die from something else while waiting.

Framilode Sat 25-Apr-20 20:25:22

I don't understand why the over 70's would be putting others at risk if we choose to break an extended lockdown for us. Presumably, the rest of the population would already be out of lockdown and spreading the virus. I can see the argument about taking up NHS capacity but not about putting others in the community at risk.

Callistemon Sat 25-Apr-20 20:38:39

Eglantine there is no good trying to explain.
patriciageegee obviously knows little about scientific research and has grabbed the wrong end of the proverbial stick and is using it to beat you with (me too) for no apparent reason.

justwokeup Sat 25-Apr-20 20:53:47

Maybe all the strident voices could remember the word 'compassion'. I telephoned a friend this week who overcame awful early life experiences by cultivating good friends and determinedly going out to be around other people. This friend has anti-depressants and a telephone and is not sure if they can survive 12 weeks with just their own thoughts for company. I also visited an extremely elderly relative in a care home who took my hand as I left and said 'you will keep coming to visit me, won't you, you're all I have'. I promised I would and then just a few days later lockdown happened. This relative's life could be measured in weeks rather than years, makes me cry every time I think about that promise. It's not a simple choice between going out = dying and staying in = living. It's also not old people/children/teenagers/delivery drivers who are spreading the virus. The virus spreads regardless, but it affects some more than others. People will die (was that the first phrase out of Boris Johnson's mouth when the press conferences started?), no doubt people will also die of other illnesses because they are afraid to go to hospital, maybe suicides will rise, maybe road accidents and work-related accidents will decrease. Who knows? This is a tragedy, but not seeing friends and family is also having a devastating effect. So please have a bit of compassion and empathy for others. It's about being alive, but it's also about having a life. My relative no doubt thinks I have deserted him. He can't understand these measures - he lived through WW2 and survived killer diseases such as measles and scarlet fever without the population once being told to stay at home. More virulent viruses and illnesses will develop and circulate the world and people will die of illnesses we already have that you wouldn't dream of staying indoors to avoid. Would I visit the care home now if they would let me in? Yes, right this minute. I missed my own DP's last days a long time ago because I was ill so didn't visit. I regret it still. Please try to walk in others' shoes, gently.

Nannysprout Sat 25-Apr-20 21:07:37

I live half in fear and half in a need to be free! The fear is winning. I’m in my mid 60’s reasonably healthy but with a few issues. Heartburn and thyroid to name but two. When I get a cold or a flu type virus I suffer terribly with a cough that will take me weeks to clear so not keen to experience this new virus! My children aren’t keen on me getting it either so they are doing what they can to keep me safe. I’m a widow and live on my own so the solitude is a bit trying but I’m quite good at keeping myself entertained. I have FaceTime with my family and that is helping to keep me sane and I count my blessings every night before I sleep. Which I do quite well thanks to the low thyroid! There are just some days though when I think “sod it! If I get it I get it!” And try to stop stressing about it and if things go back to normal I’ll just go out there and live and take my chances. My poor Mum lived a lot of her life in fear especially towards the end. Afraid to live and afraid to die. But this is a bigger dilemma than that as my actions could easily effect others. So I sit tight and dream of better days and behave the best way I can but it is one of the saddest soul searching times I have ever had and trust me I have had a few. I completely understand how people a bit older than me must feel. Cheated of what they have left . We just have to patient with everyone’s point of and pray that very soon we find a way out of this awful situation. One thing I do hope when we do emerge from the fear is that we are all less demanding and less selfish and for the sake of the planet chuck those stupid bucket lists in the bin where they belong ??

BlueSky Sat 25-Apr-20 21:09:28

Exactly Framilode
Thank you Justwokeup

Callistemon Sat 25-Apr-20 22:13:13

Justwokeup
I think we all have people whom we long to see who are in more desperate straits than us but there is nothing we can do about it at the moment.

I'm still hanging on to my stupid bucket list, though nannysprout.
If we have nothing to look forward to then what is the point? We may as well just lie down and accept that we're done for.

annep1 Sat 25-Apr-20 22:55:28

I too am torn between fear of dying and wanting freedom. I won't go out but I don't think I will survive mentally. I have a husband but most days he puts his headphones on and finds something to do in the garden. Or reads. He's perfectly content alone. I miss chatting with my friends so much and the fun at art class. And wandering round shops and nice walks in favourite places. 18 months would be very difficult.

annep1 Sat 25-Apr-20 23:01:07

CBBL I am so sorry for your plight. Perhaps there is a community forum for your area on facebook. I have found help on ours.

maddyone Sat 25-Apr-20 23:54:05

Eglantine21
I am with you all the way. I also have family members who are medics and seeing patients with Covid19 ( as GPs seeing patients in care homes) and I’m desperately worried about them. People who think that they’re not at much risk because they’re healthy, whether they’re 70 or 30, and say they can’t bear to be without their grandchildren or can’t possibly stay in, these people are selfish. Eglantine and myself, and other Gransnetters with relatives on the front line, we’d like to see our grandchildren too. But we’d also like the virus to be contained, and it never will be if people act selfishly. And the main reason we’d like it contained is so that our relatives aren’t any longer first in the queue to be infected, and therefore they’ll stay alive and our grandchildren will have parents at the end of all this.

maddyone Sun 26-Apr-20 00:13:16

Eglangtine and Callistemon
Worry yourselves not, it is clear that patriciageegee has indeed grabbed the wrong end of the stick. Don’t worry about it, she simply doesn’t understand what you’re saying. You could easily lose the will to live trying to explain to someone who doesn’t want to hear.

Onelifeletsliveit Sun 26-Apr-20 00:30:44

It’s very selfish of the over 70s to not do as the government dictates. If you all start going out and about and catch the virus (as you’re more likely to catch it than any other age group) then you will quickly overwhelm the health system and will have ALL of us locked down for even longer than is the current plan. Don’t you see that the government could have us all under lockdown until there is a vaccine. Try for a moment to think of those of us still working with businesses to support who desperately need the country to get back on its feet economically. It’s ok if you’re retired on a full final salary pension scheme with no mortgage; try to think of others trying hard to make ends meet with no financial security whatsoever with the threat of homelessness looming. Stop and think before your selfishness takes over.