Missing my baby granddaughter feeling hopeless

GranAnnie I sympathise it is truly awful. I miss mine so much, and think about them a lot, probably too much. Looking forward to a FaceTime this weekend it’s a small consolation. I look forward to going to sleep now as I seem to dream about them most nights, and wake up full of love. Hope it’s not too long now for you, at least your not alone, there’s lots of us in the same boat.

Yes @Mamabear255 it seems even harder when mum is struggling and we feel helpless. My DD has been - we hope temporarily - seriously physically affected by the birth of her son last July and virtually housebound for months even before lockdown. The only consolation @GranAnnie is that little one definitely is bonding with us through regular screen time. Oh the ridiculous things we do to make babies smile!

Thank you, all of you, for your responses. It means a lot and has helped me this morning. Thank you also for sharing your thoughts and experiences. Mamabear, when the wee one was born I spent a few weeks on and off to help my daughter. Our grown up daughters need us too, and I am terribly sad to hear your daughter has new baby twins and a toddler and missing you. I hope you'll be able to get through today ok x

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I also live in Scotland and am finding the lockdown really difficult just now. My DD has just had twins 3 weeks ago and she has a two year old. My arms just ache to hold the new babies and hug my granddaughter. I know my girl is struggling and I am feeling totally helpless. I’m fed up with living life through a screen.

I totally understand how you feel granAnnie . I have looked after my toddler granddaughter (2) for a day or two every week since she was born . I would usually see her and my DD at least 3 times a week . They only live in the next town to me but I can’t see them and It’s breaking my heart. I daren’t even go and see her through the fence as at 2 she will not understand why grandma can’t come in and play.

There are many of us “hands in grandmas” in a similar Situation and it’s awful it really is.

I do so feel for you missing a small baby. My best friend is in the same position missing her first grandson going through his milestones they grow so quickly. I hope you can distract yourself and are able to see the little one as soon as possible

Thank you Maggiemaybe. I appreciated being able to write my feelings down, and that you heard and acknowledged my post. And yes, I'm so thankful for the gift of modern technology/facetime

It is hard, granAnnie, and sometimes we just need to vent. There’s nothing any of us can do but to empathise and to tell you that it will pass. We’ve just to look to the future and do whatever we can to get through it. Thank goodness for modern technology, eh?

Ooops hit return before I finished. When I visit my daughter I stay in her house. Neither of us can see a way forward - if I lived near her I could see her at a distance, but once it's ok to travel there I have to stay at her house. We agreed when it's possible I'll stay for an extended period of time (if I get permissions from work). I try very much to stay positive, and have much gratitude they are all well. The other grandparents live close by and at least see her from a distance. She is a very much loved baby, and I know they are aching to hold her again. Right now, I just wish I could see her. My daughter is an only child and we are very very close. She is upset that her baby daughter is missing out on all the bonding, and, well, it's just hard. I know I am not alone, but I just wanted to find some companionship today with my emotional feelings. I'm very resilient. I've been alone for weeks (now working from home). I'm quite introverted so can cope with lockdowns etc, but this missing and aching to see the wee one is really hard. Thanks for listening.