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I am angry with God

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ExD Wed 03-Jun-20 13:24:38

I hope she is getting the right kind of help.
I sometimes think the wrong sort of counselling can result in a child dwelling on bad things instead of coping with them. I look at Prince Harry forever reminding us of how he lost his Mum and it breaks my heart, but I can't help feeling he was not helped to deal with it and accept it.
So I hope your GD has kind and thoughtful assistance to get over it and not let it spoil her life.
As for God - I lost faith years ago, he doesn't keep his promises.

25Avalon Wed 03-Jun-20 13:17:12

There are many things we do not understand FarawayGran. When my son was diagnosed with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy I told God I hated him and swore at him. In doing so however I had to acknowledge that I had not stopped believing there was a God. What has happened to your DGD is absolutely horrific but bad things happen all the time and sometimes prayers are sadly not answered. I think maybe praying to God can help give us strength to deal with things but does not stop them happening. You need to be strong for all your family. I will be thinking of you.

mrsgreenfingers56 Wed 03-Jun-20 13:14:54

Oh dear I am so sorry to read this Faraway Gran, please accept my sympathy for your DGD, the poor little girl. Have the police been involved? It is unbelievable this has happened from a boy of 10, what on earth is his home life like that he has acted in such a manner. Your son and DIL must be totally and utterly devastated. Has your DGD been offered any counselling/medical help? I would urge your family to seek help from professionals.
I fully understand why you ask what is the point of prayer, I have wondered this myself when thousands and thousands of people have lost their lives to Covid 19.
Words cannot express the sorrow I feel for your family. (Flowers)

dragonfly46 Wed 03-Jun-20 13:14:15

Faraway that is dreadful. Surely the boy will not get away with it completely.

God does not prevent bad things happening, he maybe gives us the strength to deal with things. Bad things are part of life but nevertheless that is a horrid thing to happen and I feel your pain.

nanasam Wed 03-Jun-20 13:12:05

I can't imagine the pain you're going through. I'm so very sorry your little GD had to go through this, poor lamb.

I'm afraid I often wonder if there is a God when things like this happen. How could HE allow it to happen. I won't be going to church.

Meanwhile, you all, as a family, will have to be strong for each other. Love will see you through. flowers

FarawayGran Wed 03-Jun-20 13:02:25

Since my DGD was born I have prayed for her, and other family members and friends.
I am not particularly religious, but I do thank Him for my blessings, and try to live a god life.
Every night I said 'Please keep her safe from all harm'
and I am devastated to find that she has been raped by the boy next door. SHE IS SEVEN YEARS OLD! He is 10 and too young to be prosecuted
My son and his family have very little money, they can't bear to be in their own home. Their life has been destroyed.
What is the point of prayer if god allows this to happen? when I have begged him to keep her safe?
I can't understand it. I am an angry lost soul.