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25Avalon Thu 11-Jun-20 09:24:39

Joanna2 when I visited I entered via the open garage door and door into garden and used hand sanitizer my DD had put out, sat on a sanitised plastic chair and kept my distance. We have self isolated so no risk to GC. I am sure when that 5 mile limit is lifted and surely it won’t be long now you will be able to do the same.

25Avalon Thu 11-Jun-20 09:19:51

I suppose you can’t travel because you are in Wales. In England you could do 30 miles and visit in the garden observing social distancing easy. I did this on Tuesday although only had 6 miles to travel. GD aged 31/2 kept social distancing and knew who I was but GS who is 9 months looked very scared when he saw me. No surprise really for very young ones as they won’t be used to socialising at all.

I am sure they will get to know us when restrictions lift. If they were in Australia many months could pass without seeing them in the flesh.

Daisymae Wed 10-Jun-20 19:32:54

I think that there's a lot of people who can empathize with you. I was wondering today whether family bonds will be weakened in some instances but you are in touch and they are young. You can only carry on for the time being, but remember all this is not to protect the children but to protect you. Lockdown is easing so hopefully you will be able to meet up soon.

joanna12 Wed 10-Jun-20 19:01:33

it hurts,we were out walking yesterday and I see grandparents with their grandchildren not distancing as I would and neighbours having their grandchildren in their homes and I have nothing,somedays I think I cant do this another day whats the point will I ever see them again,and I also have my parents who are late 70s who cant understand why they cant see their great grandchildren,i understand I just feel so down feeling sorry for myself I guess need to snap out of it.Even if they raise the five mile rule in Wales I don't know if my son and daughter inlaw will leave us garden visit for a while to protect the children,i know they are brilliant parents and I am being selfish but every now and then it gets to me now is a bad day.

ninathenana Wed 10-Jun-20 19:01:19

I do sympathise but there are those who are lucky to see their GC once a year or so due to them living over seas.

Willow73 Wed 10-Jun-20 18:53:44

I know how you feel. I have 2 grandsons under 3 years old, can't have them over as they won't keep a distance. The house behind us have 4 children who are constantly in their garden and the noise of them is really upsetting. I end up inside the house in rooms where I can't hear them and its worse cause they are sociallising the parents and children and even had a party last weekend.

granAnnie Wed 10-Jun-20 18:37:43

mcem I'd rather go with Holyrood any day!

mcem Wed 10-Jun-20 18:31:21

Well for GPs in England you are now able to form 'a bubble' and see your families. We in Scotland must wait a bit longer but that's a price worth paying to live under the jurisdiction of Holyrood and not Westminster.

granAnnie Wed 10-Jun-20 18:27:58

joanna I posted a couple of weeks ago as I am missing my baby granddaughter terribly. She was born in September last year. I was so lucky to see her in March before lockdown. They live in England and I live in Scotland (about a seven hour drive), so there are different rules. Like you, in Scotland, we are restricted to 5 miles. And, for me, I need to be able to 'stay' in England once I am able to go.
The missing is terrible. Boris just announced some major changes for England re single people being able to visit another house (but didn't include those in shielding category I don't think). I just wanted to say I hear and understand your pain. The different rules and phases in the different nations don't help.

joanna12 Wed 10-Jun-20 18:17:06

I have tried facetime,but the 2 year old isn't really interested just wants to play,and the baby is double her age since I last saw her.We wouldn't drive to them,just have to wait and see what happens with the new lockdown changes next week,but even then I don't know if my son would leave us visit to their garden as they are shielding,they have not left the house in 12 weeks.I know I am being selfish,but I am missing so much its just gone,i know its the same for everyone just wanted to know how you all are coping.thank you

AGAA4 Wed 10-Jun-20 16:58:07

Joanna12. I understand as I live in Wales too and we aren't allowed to drive for more than 5 miles.

My neighbour has been stopped by the police twice to ask where she is going. She was just going to work.

I miss my grandchildren too as they all live at least 60 miles away and in England. The youngest is just a year old.

Hithere Wed 10-Jun-20 16:12:26

Cant you videochat?

Poppyred Wed 10-Jun-20 15:56:23

The whole point of these restrictions it to prevent spreading the virus. Travelling 30 miles and seeing your family at a safe distance in their garden is not going to pass on the virus. Use your common sense.

joanna12 Wed 10-Jun-20 15:46:35

I have small grandchildren one age 2 and another 6 months,i have not seen them for 3 months because of the lockdown and we live in Wales so cannot travel more than 5 miles,they live thirty miles away.I am trying so hard but when I am out and I see other people with their grandchildren it hurts so much,i do facetime one a week but they are to small and I also worry they will forget us,i would never want to put then in any harm and I will follow the rules but somedays it just feels to much.I am late fifties with no health issues but I understand the reasoning yet I feel its just me that's missing out,selfish I know but hearing from others would help.thank you