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If you got divorced at some point, what did you do with your wedding/engagement rings?

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MaryTheBookeeper Mon 27-Jul-20 21:48:39

I'm wondering what to do with mine? They have sentimental value but what's the point of them just sitting in the drawer? I don't want my dc to use them, I'd rather they had their own fresh start. Flogging them for scrap feels heartless. What did you do with yours?

Molli Tue 28-Jul-20 10:05:23

I gave both rings to my daughter when she got married and she used them as part payment for their wedding rings.They weren't worth much.

Googes41 Tue 28-Jul-20 10:05:59

Do you all continue to wear your wedding rings when widowed? A friend recently widowed has removed hers
Saying she is no longer married. I believe mine to be a sign of
Everlasting love and will continue to wear mine as did my mother and mil.

Purplepoppies Tue 28-Jul-20 10:10:17

I have my mum's wedding ring from her marriage to my dad. I used to wear it (on my little finger because I have big hands ?) then wore it around my neck, now its in my jewellery box.
Maybe your children/child/grandchild would like them? Best to ask before you sell?? ?

annifrance Tue 28-Jul-20 10:11:06

Legal point: wife/fiancee entitled to keep engagement ring whatever the circumstances, it was a gift, however a family heirloom is returned.

I gave my first engagement ring back to my mother in law on their Golden Wedding anniversary, it had been hers anyway. She was very touched and had never expected it back. The wedding ring along with second wedding ring I sold and got a good price along with other bits of gold.

Second engagement ring I love for the ring itself and wear it daily. It was designed for me along with a lot of other jewellery from the same designer. I did sell the wedding necklace as it is outdated to wear a suite of jewellery nowdays. Anyway I only wore it about ten times in England as not many occasions for that sort of thing, and here in France profonde it was useless! I have kept the matching earrings. I do have quite a lot of inherited jewellery which is beautiful. I am gradually giving some of it to DD and DDiL.
All the remaining stuff will go to my DD and DGDs when I die.

After 20 years my OH and I eventually got married recently . I'm not really bothered about yet more rings as I have plenty. And at 70 seems a bit daft to spend money on expensive gold. So will at some point get around to a silver wedding ring and another ring in silver with a white topaz stone that I have acquired at some point. My DH has bought me silver for my 50th and other bits of silver so seems to make sense.

annifrance Tue 28-Jul-20 10:12:56

MY grandmother's wedding ring was buried with her, My mother's I was going to leave with her but as she was cremated someone told me the funeral directors just take these for themselves! So I gave it to my DD.

Diggingdoris Tue 28-Jul-20 10:13:20

I sold both his and my wedding bands as I was desperate for money . My aunt bought my engagement ring from me for the same reason, but she said she would give it back if I changed my mind at a later date. I never did.

Azalea99 Tue 28-Jul-20 10:18:20

In the maternal side of my family the engagement ring is always passed to the granddaughter, and so mine will pass to my GD. It was given with genuine love and worn the same way for 42 years (until he met some young Thai masseuse). Our GD knows we are friends & that there’s no bitterness now, so I hope she’ll cherish it. Wedding ring had to be cut off after I broke my wrist.

Yellowmellow Tue 28-Jul-20 10:23:26

I had my do diamond engagement ring made into a necklace and my wedding ring went into the making of the necklace.

Sassie1961 Tue 28-Jul-20 10:26:21

I accidentally threw both my wedding and engagement ring from my first marriage out with the trash. So now probably buried in landfill somewhere in Oxfordshire. I had thought they were empty jewellery boxes when having a clear out a few years after divorce and didn't check contents. If I had still had them I would have sold them for their scrap value.

Coco51 Tue 28-Jul-20 10:28:48

Kept the diamond and still wear it (don’t know what ex-dh thinks when he sees!) had the wedding ring melted down and made into a simple band, but wish I hadn’t, a lot of gold got ’lost’ in the remake.

Ilovecheese Tue 28-Jul-20 10:28:50

The decision was taken out of my hands, my wedding ring was stolen in a house burglary.

Aepgirl Tue 28-Jul-20 10:29:04

I took my wedding ring, engagement ring and dress ring to a jeweller who buys and sells at auction. I got a decent sum of money for them, and spent it on a lovely weekend away with my daughter and son-in-law. My daughter thought this was a lovely way of letting go, as she never forgave her dad for betraying us all.

janestheone Tue 28-Jul-20 10:29:17

My wedding ring was given to me by my now-late soon-to-be MIL at the time, if that makes sense; she had no daughters. The ring had belonged to her own mother. When her son and I split- my decision, his adultery - I gave him back the ring as it came from his family. We didn’t have children together.

Craftycat Tue 28-Jul-20 10:30:59

I like my old engagement ring & sometimes wear it. I think I have my old wedding ring somewhere too but would not wear that now. I like my current ones too. I call them current ones to keep DH no. 2 on his toes!!

Purplepixie Tue 28-Jul-20 10:32:43

I sold mine to the pawn brokers and bought myself a bracelet.

albertina Tue 28-Jul-20 10:38:40

I married a cheapskate. I bought my own wedding ring as he never had any money and we used my late mother's engagement ring for the same reason.

I paid a good price for the gold wedding band but only got a tiny bit back when I sold it.

Marrying him was a terrible decision.

rowyn Tue 28-Jul-20 10:44:34

My engagement ring was stolen whilst we were still married - in a burglary. My wedding ring is in a pouch with a few other bits of gold, like a watch strap, etc waiting for the day when my daughters will have to dispose of my effects!

Teacheranne Tue 28-Jul-20 10:51:14

We had very little money when I was younger so neither my engagement ring or wedding ring were expensive - not likely to have any value now. So since my divorce they just languish in my underwear drawer! I really must throw them away.

gillybob Tue 28-Jul-20 10:52:38

I was divorced from my first husband after only a few months of a marriage that should never had happened .

No engagement ring and the cheapest wedding ring possible that I threw away in the dustbin, where it belonged. I couldn't have wished my unhappiness on anyone else so though best get rid .

pamdixon Tue 28-Jul-20 10:57:51

sold wedding ring and engagement ring when I remarried!

Laughterlines Tue 28-Jul-20 10:59:33

Don’t leave jewellery in boxes in dressing table. It’s the first place burglars look and it’s made easy for them to steal valuable items all boxed up and ready to go. Beware.

Grandmabatty Tue 28-Jul-20 11:13:45

My wedding ring had to be cut off as my fingers had swollen. The pieces went in the bin. My engagement ring I still have. It, and the rest of my jewellery, will go to my daughter and she can do as she pleases with it.

biba70 Tue 28-Jul-20 11:16:08

gold- in the bin? What a pity- it could have been melted and a pendant made, etc.

Dee1012 Tue 28-Jul-20 11:21:30

I sold mine and gave the money to a charity...I liked the thought of some benefit going to someone / something, I never had any!

I wear my great grandmother's eternity ring and my grandmothers engagment ring. I had my parents wedding rings made into one and I wear that too.

SparklyGrandma Tue 28-Jul-20 11:32:12

Sold mine for cash. After 9 years though.