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If you got divorced at some point, what did you do with your wedding/engagement rings?

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MaryTheBookeeper Mon 27-Jul-20 21:48:39

I'm wondering what to do with mine? They have sentimental value but what's the point of them just sitting in the drawer? I don't want my dc to use them, I'd rather they had their own fresh start. Flogging them for scrap feels heartless. What did you do with yours?

sharon103 Tue 28-Jul-20 15:36:44

I threw it at him! grin

songstress60 Tue 28-Jul-20 15:41:55

I have never been married, but I had a very acrimonious break up with fiancee years ago, so sold the rings. Fetched quite a bit of cash. Don't keep them in a drawer. Sell them and make some money.

mrsgreenfingers56 Tue 28-Jul-20 15:48:31

Sold the wedding ring as 22 carat gold but some years after the divorce, still kept the engagement ring and don't know why really as never wear it.
Googes 41 your comment about your friend removing her rings when she was widowed, well my friend at 56 did that and I felt shocked. She said she was no longer married due to his death. My Grandma's, M-I-L and mother all still worn their rings after their husband's death.

Forestflame Tue 28-Jul-20 15:54:20

Sold them!

justme2 Tue 28-Jul-20 16:06:05

It was a family stone that had been reset for me. I gave it back.

tattygran14 Tue 28-Jul-20 16:20:51

I threw my wedding ring out of the window after the b attacked me. It was gold and heavy, I'd certainly sell it now. I hung onto the diamond one though.

bridie54 Tue 28-Jul-20 16:33:21

My first husband had been unfaithful with a work colleague and who I thought was a family friend too. So when he told me our marriage was over I boxed up all the very thoughtful gifts she had given me over the years and posted them to her taping my wedding ring to a card saying that “You may as well have the second hand ring to go with the second hand husband“. She had designer engagement and wedding rings made but 25 years later they have never married. I didn’t have an engagement with him but he did once give me a beautiful silver and amethyst ring which I still have and wear.

TwiceAsNice Tue 28-Jul-20 16:43:56

My wedding engagement and eternity rings are in a small velveteen bag in a drawer. I haven’t thought about them for ages. Due to the fact that my children hate their father and never see him I doubt they would want them. The granddaughters might like them but 3 rings 2 grandchildren doesn’t go

I bought myself a ring afterwards which I wear on my right hand which sort of symbolises my freedom for me . Perhaps I’ll ask them what they think and flog them/ melt them down

Arto1s Tue 28-Jul-20 17:04:25

I sold my wedding ring and engagement ring from my first marriage to buy my second husband’s wedding ring!

Grannyshome Tue 28-Jul-20 17:10:57

I took my rings off and kept them in my jewellery box without giving them much thought. 28 years later I remarried and my old wedding ring was melted down to make a new one. 22 carat gold is so expensive it seemed such a waste to buy new. My "new" (we'd lived together for years) husband is, like me, a practical sort and thought it was a good idea. I'm sure it cost him more to have a ring custom made than to buy one off the shelf but I guess he felt it was a nice way of leaving the past behind.
My first engagement ring is still in my jewellery box and will in time go to my only granddaughter, as will all of my other jewellery including the wedding ring and engagement ring I wear now.

Worcester4lady Tue 28-Jul-20 17:20:45

Sold mine and gave the money to my son to buy himself a toy!

Knittynatter Tue 28-Jul-20 17:42:59

My wedding ring was cut off when I broke my finger and my daughter has my engagement ring. I do wear my Gran’s and my Mum’s wedding rings. My sister had my mum’s ring for her second, very happy, marriage but when she died her husband gave it to me as her knew it had been Mum’s.
They both fit my third finger so one is on my left hand. I don’t care what anyone thinks. I’m a very happy single Granny and not wanting another relationship. ??

Alioop Tue 28-Jul-20 19:49:56

Left them on worktop and then I left him!

Shandy3 Tue 28-Jul-20 20:03:54

Stones taken out and reset together with new stones into a fantastic new peice of jewllery ?

NanaPlenty Tue 28-Jul-20 20:45:17

Took the diamonds out of my engagement ring and had it remodelled and sold my wedding ring as it didn’t fit and I knew I wouldn’t wear it.

mrswoo Tue 28-Jul-20 21:10:18

I never had an engagement ring but I sold my wedding ring for much needed cash. My ex had betrayed me, (and our young son) and I really didn't attach any sentimental value to it
Eight years after my divorce I married my second husband. At the reception I was excitedly showing off my lovely new ring when my tactless sister asked if it was a new ring or whether we were just using the one from my marriage to my first husband. shock.

vampirequeen Tue 28-Jul-20 21:48:27

They're in a drawer or a box somewhere. I don't really know but I wouldn't have thrown them away. They were gold and I'm a Yorkshire lass. We don't throw things with cash value away grin

Kim19 Wed 29-Jul-20 07:17:21

This item makes me smile. Many years ago I received a Dear John (thoroughly unexpectedly) from my then fiancé. My oppo observed from a distance but gently pursued the ring disposal prospects in due course. When she heard of my somewhat dramatic and lovelorn plan, she said something to the effect of 'heck no. We could have a few good slap-ups if you sold it'. Duly done and appreciated thoroughly helping kick my sad heart into touch. Though now long since widowed, still wear my rings with reflective joy.

LadyJus Wed 29-Jul-20 15:02:12

I donated my platinum wedding ring and diamond & platinum engagement ring to my local hedgehog support hogspital for them to raffle off, hopefully they'll raise at least £1000 - half the value. I'd had to purchase the wedding ring myself so it held bitter memories. I could have had them melted down but tbh, it would have cost more money than I was prepared to pay.
I only had my engagement ring left from my 1st marriage, I weighed it in and didn't look back!

Madmaggie Wed 29-Jul-20 17:03:44

Gave my first engagement ring to my only daughter (I had paid for it anyway) a very simple solitaire. The beautiful ring her fiance had commissioned also was a solitaire but much larger and sat very high up on her finger. She loves it but was afraid of losing or damaging it in a former job she had which meant digging out soil samples on building sites etc.Suggested she could wear my ring for work and her ring at other times. (I fear she has misplaced it plus another ring she admired which first husband, her dad, had bought me for a birthday). My second marriage ended and I had chosen a dress ring not your typical engagement ring. I have kept that one because its a dress ring & pretty but too small now. I now have two gold wedding rings in my jewellry box and often wonder about having them made into something else. The price of gold is rocketing. Could be worth getting an estimate of value if a jeweller would do it for free.

Happygirl79 Wed 29-Jul-20 17:25:18

Sold both engagement ring and wedding ring to help pay for food for our children as he wouldn't pay maintenance

Daftbag1 Wed 29-Jul-20 18:31:29

I gave them to my daughter I felt that they belonged to her.

Magrithea Sat 01-Aug-20 10:24:35

When I worked in a jewellers a lady came to collect an eternity ring that had been made from the stones and metal of her old engagement ring - 3 diamonds and 3 blue topaz - it looked stunning!

BryanthePigeon Sun 16-Aug-20 00:08:08

I made a solitary grand gesture the day after receiving my decree absolute and threw them as far as I could into the middle of a local lake we used to visit together when we were married.
That was nearly 40 years ago and I have been happily remarried for the last 36 years, but I quite like to think of them sitting in the bottom of that lake from time to time!

Allie2 Fri 04-Sep-20 13:44:03

I had the gold melted and the diamonds set into a pendant that both the jeweler and I designed. It’s a lovely piece and I wear it often.