Grumpy old men

Has he always been like that Joesoap? If not I guess it's to do with the lockdown plus natural ageing (we are all getting grumpier)!

My husband is like this I call him the joyshredder if you’re feeling chirpy that day he has to bring you down. To be fair my husband has had 2 strokes and a TIA and is on medication for depression. Do you think your husband is depressed?

we are all getting grumpier)!
BlueSky Please speak for yourself! I'm not!
Remember; "Silence is one of the hardest arguments to refute!"

You cannot change his behaviour, you can only change yours. Do something different, I used to start humming or whistling which really annoyed him. Go into another room, go to the loo, anything at all to break his momentum. You are not responsible for his moods so don’t take on the burden of guilt and there’s nothing that says you have to listen or fix them. Good luck.

I have one of these. He morphed on retirement and lock down has made it worse. He’s a real soul sucker at times. Thank goodness for dog walks and at least now I can take myself out and leave him to it.
I don’t think he knows he’s like it.

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

I sometimes call my DH by the name of Victor Meldrew. The worst is in the car. He goes on and on about other drivers and how useless they are. He likes to complain about anything and everything. It's his nature. I've learned to ignore it.

Can you talk to him about it Joesoap? Is he aware he is doing it or has he got into a bad habit? Let him know how it makes you feel.