I don`t think I will do any planning this year, the dgc are all old enough for cash gifts and the AC have said no presents please. The dd I am living closest to has done christmas for the past 2 years and I was going to do it this year but naturally now everything has changed. They have booked to go away and we will have that gathering 2 weeks before christmas
Christmas will be another day, not a gloomy one on my own, I already have a project, a lovely self-contained needle felted animal. I will most definitely not get treats and drinks and chocolates this year, it is hard enough to avoid those right now and would be silly to put that weight on when I am already too heavy for my height
The first year I was widowed, I bought a kit to assemble and make a spinning wheel, it took me two weeks and is an absolute joy to use. The needle felting kit looks gorgeous and I may get one more, after all I will have a new empty oak mantle to display the finished animals
So if the dgc were small, yes I would be on the look-out for presents, if I lived in walking distance then yes I would be making puddings and mincemeat and cake for them. Each to their own for the christmas planning, some need the christmas festival so badly, no-one has any right to take the joy from them