Nanny or Grandma

Whats in a name ?

Whats wrong with Granny....good enough for Queen....So I am happy with it too.

Sometimes shortened to Gan gan which I used when littke girl

I think you are rightly upset at your daughter’s rudeness to you. They are infuriating. Ask her what she would like to call you to her child. She won’t say ‘nothing’.

If you want to be referred to as an old goat then that is your choice - but I agree with your daughter, Ask her what would she like you to be reffered as?

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I thought long and hard about what I wanted to be called. I ended up with an accidental adulteration of my choice because it was slightly unusual and misinterpreted. Do I care? Not a whit. It's relationships not names that matter. However, if Nanny is really important to you (and why not?) I would simply introduce it into the conversation you have with the baby. 'Hello (whoever). I'm Nanny'. The more often you say this, the more you will get used to it and subsequently your GD.. At some point your daughter may overhear you and accept but don't let the chat be directed at her. If it is important to you then stick to your guns. Softly softly approach sounds good and, after all, you have a wee while until GD starts to talk. Good luck and a hearty welcome to the world of GPs.

My dil ALWAYS refers to us as Nanny/Grandad but ALWAYS as the third person....so it's ALWAYS through the go

When my son and dil got together we said call us by our names. But NO, We are mr/mrs NONAME

So 14 years on still referred to in the third person through the gs & gd.

Even when I took care of 8 month old gs 3 days a week, dil always said to gs 'say thank you to nan for having me' when leaving. ??

I'm truly past caring now....this disconnection through COVID19 and that they moved a little further away before Xmas, leaves me less frustrated and so much happier in myself. ??

I was Nanny to five and Nanny plus my name to the other two who had another Nanny as they got older it became Nan and Im Nan to everyone now I personally (and it is personal) prefer Nan as Grandma or Gran, to my ears sounds quite posh and a bit old fashioned, but I expect to ‘grandmas‘ ears Nan sounds cheap and childish Each to our own
Now to your problem as your daughter has come up with no alternative I would call yourselfNan or Nanny or Nanna to the child from day one “ come to Nanny*” etc if your daughter makes a fuss take no notice you ve given her plenty of chances to give you an alternative See what the baby calls you when she talks but it’s really not worth making a fuss over at this stage and definitely nothing to cry over
Enjoy the little one and congratulations Nanny

Ps, I am gran or granny as my own dear gran was called.

Bundle of joy

How about grandmama? No kidding, was requested by sil's mother and agreed to and gcs all solemnly use it.

When my sons girlfriend was pregnant he asked me what I wanted to be called I said Nanny , but when he was born my son told me that his GF mum was going to be nanny so I’d have to choose a different title , I was upset especially as I live so far away I felt even more left out . But I decide that I was nanny and when I see my GS I jibber away to him referring to myself as nanny and now my son calls me it too . I think emotions run high for everyone when a new child is born . Nothing stopping you calling yourself nanny when you chat to the baby . Maybe you need to sit down with your daughter explain how you feel and ask her why she’s being like this . She’s very young and we do tend to take things out on our nearest and dearest . Hope you get things sorted and just enjoy that little I flew of joy ?

If you feel everyone has the right to be called what they want then technically you are grandparent/grandmother. Your DD will have to eventually make some reference to you in some form or other to your GD. Will be interesting what she uses. Oh look, it's Mummy's Mummy! Or you could use the same when speaking to your GD. See what your DDs response is to that. Have you even asked why your DD won't refer to you as Nanny?

Well, I don't blame your daughter. I would hate to be called Nanny. Can't you discuss it with your daughter and come to an agreement on a term that suits you both? What a thing to cry over when you have a lovely newborn to be happy about.

I’m Gran and love it.

Try not to place so much emphasis on it. I have no children of my own but have step children, one set of grandchildren call me Grandma, the other call me Mamma (a local term). Neither would have been my choice but I didn’t feel I could say anything as I was grateful that my stepsons counted me as the grandmother to their children. However, when you have a small person joyously flinging themselves at you shouting “Mamma” or writing little notes saying that they ‘love you to the moon and back’, it matters not a jot.

Also, they may have entirely different ideas. My late Mother wanted to be ‘Granny’.when the eldest was a toddler she called my Mum “Gan Gan” and it stuck. All six referred to her as ‘Gan Gan’ for the rest of her life and still talk about ‘Gan Gan’ although they are all in their 20s.

Congratulations by the way, don’t worry too much and I hope you will be being a grandmother as much as I do ?

Please don't get upset. When baby can talk it will find its own name for you. Ours call us granny and grandad but they use the same names for their other grandparents, adding the Christian name to show the difference. They came up with this themselves. I have a friend who's called Grannyknit for obvious reasons.

I just love being ‘Granny’ but honestly wouldn’t care what I was called, as long as not too rude! My sister was called YaYa as her first grandchild couldn’t say Granny and the name stuck - known throughout family and by six grandchildren, sons in law, even husband as YaYa! It’s very affectionate and unique to her.....sadly, she died unexpectedly last year and everyone mourns the devastating loss of ‘YaYa’. Life’s too short to stress over a name ......

Your lovely new Granddaughter will find her own term of endearment for you My dad was always known by my DD & DS as Gangan chosen by my daughter! My mum was always Nana but DH & myself are Grandad & Nan its all part of the getting used to being older thing really so hold tight until she can talk x

good luck. It will work out as the other wise people have said! My grandchlidren call me Grandma Pam, so no one gets confused with the other grandmothers (when I'm not being called the mad old bat by the older ones that is!!).

My mother's parents were known by us, her grandchildren, as Nanny and Pop. I didn't realise until my sister became a grandmother that she, my sister, hated the name Nanny and would never want to be called it.

Don't fret about a name. It's only a name. It's too early yet to bombard your daughter with questions - let things settle then explain to her GENTLY that you would like to be called pussycat or whatever you want. For now, take GENTLE care of your daughter and her baby (and the boyfriend) WE none of us know what others are truly thinking or feeling. Probably best to leave the whole discussion for now and just be a MUM to your daughter. No one can ever replace that reltionship.Her hormones are all over the place. Be the steady rock that you are for her. All else will follow - give it time and think about her no about you,

I was so lucky to have my Grandma in my life until I was 54 and a grandma myself. She was a great, great grandma and for 10 years we were a 5 generation family . I took my own grandchildren to see her every week and they called her “little Grandma” as she was tiny

gilly you were very privileged to have that generation span, and for so long.

'Little Grandma' - aww

CrochetJo you say the only grandmother in your daughter's life was called "Nanna" but there was no real relationship.
Might it be that when you said you wanted to be called "Nanny" your daughter's immediate gut reaction was that it's too similar?
The fact that she can't think of anything else, but definitely doesn't want that, suggests to me that the name has unpleasant connotations for her that she doesn't want for her baby.
I understand your disappointment but I really wouldn't push it yet, let things settle down and just enjoy having them live with you. How lucky are they!
Congratulations to you all ?

Thank you CrochetJo happy to help and share. Grans, Nannie’s,Nan’s and Grandma’s ....helping each other . What could be nicer?

I was so lucky to have my Grandma in my life until I was 54 and a grandma myself. She was a great, great grandma and for 10 years we were a 5 generation family . I took my own grandchildren to see her every week and they called her “little Grandma” as she was tiny .

I’m sure things will work out for you and your little granddaughter . Things will just fall into place . The main thing is to be happy and enjoy every precious second you have with her .

gillybob

I agree it should be up to you CrochetJo. You should get a lovely warm and fuzzy feeling when you hear the little one call for you in whatever name you choose. Whether it’s Nanny,Granny or Nan your granddaughter will love you just the same.

I always wanted to be a plain and simple Grandma as my own grandma (who lived to be 99) was the most truly wonderful and loving person. If I could be half the grandma to my grandchildren that she was to me then I would be happy .

Gillybob you give the best advice ever, thank you so much. Myself and my children haven’t had much experience of Grandparents as my Dads parents died before I was born and I didn’t see my Mums parents after she gave my Dad custody of me, then my stepmum and Dad split before I had my children. So I wanted it to be different for this little girl.