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Feeling sad

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trustgone4sure Mon 05-Oct-20 12:44:56

I think Lockdown has affected children as well as adults Granangel,please don`t take it personaly,at least he still comes to you for tea and fun.

Granangel Mon 05-Oct-20 12:26:04

Thanks for that and yes, although they were always close, they are even closer since lockdown. I just miss him but I’m really happy they’re so close

Jaxjacky Mon 05-Oct-20 12:08:52

He probably had a lot more attention from his Dad during lockdown if the Dad was working at home and got used to that. At 4 he’s still very young so he’s finding change difficult, things may revert back over time.

Granangel Mon 05-Oct-20 11:59:16

Thanks all, he doesn’t cry until he’s had his bath and is actually in bed. I do take him straight back . I hope it is just a phase as I didn’t have him for 3 months or so in lockdown.

suziewoozie Mon 05-Oct-20 11:55:21

I can understand your feeling sad. I feel as though I’ve lost some of the closeness with my dgs (6 and 10) as our contact and activities changed these last few months. I’m trying not to dwell on it and also tell myself that without Covid things change and move on.What has made me happy is how well home schooling went for them, how extra good the relationship is with their parents and they’re happy back at school. We’re not doing sleepovers and I miss them but it’s a choice we’ve made with our dd.

maddyone Mon 05-Oct-20 11:43:28

I’d just have him for tea and fun then for the moment. If he cries for his dad it’s best not to try to keep him overnight just now. You don’t want the crying to become habitual when he’s at your house so let him go home for now. It won’t be long before he’s asking you for a sleepover.

BlueBelle Mon 05-Oct-20 11:39:50

Wise words nottooold don’t read anything into this granangel they go through all sorts of phases Go with the flow just treat him the same as always You don’t even know if he’s heard something on the tv or news that has made him a bit insecure and wanting to get home

NotTooOld Mon 05-Oct-20 11:30:09

Young children go through these phases, Granangel. It's normal for a young child to want to go home to his Dad when he's had tea and fun with you. He's probably tired and wanting Dad, story, bath and bed. It's no reflection on you and doesn't mean he loves you any the less. I would find it more upsetting if he didn't want to go home, tbh.

Granangel Mon 05-Oct-20 11:19:33

Has anyone else been through this? My 4 year old grandson and I were so close. He used to cry to be with me and when I left him he would cry. Now, since lockdown he cries to go home to his dad when we try to have him for a sleepover. I’m finding it hard to deal with. I still have him twice per week for tea and fun but why won’t he stay over now?