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Sentimental music - what do you think?

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ExD Mon 26-Oct-20 15:18:41

Do you HAVE to be unpleasant Smileless?

If you'd bothered to read the post properly you'd have seen I was beginning to feel guilty at finding my friend's anguish amusing, although it did seem that way at first.
The fact she ended up in tears over her suspicions about a 'girlfiiend' were what alerted me to the possibility of her having some mental problem - possibly brought on my the crisis.
Please don't be so quick to judge.

Smileless2012 Mon 26-Oct-20 14:45:45

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FannyCornforth Mon 26-Oct-20 10:51:51

Ilovecheese

And if her husband is denying it "well he would wouldn't he"

Or he actually isn't having an affair?

Ilovecheese Mon 26-Oct-20 10:49:40

And if her husband is denying it "well he would wouldn't he"

Ilovecheese Mon 26-Oct-20 10:48:27

I suspect that your friend might be right about him having someone else and he is missing her due to the restrictions.

Tangerine Mon 26-Oct-20 10:41:22

Perhaps your friend's husband is trying to escape the reality of Covid in some way and finds solace in these songs.

When lockdown first started in March, I must admit I had a few very early nights because I just felt safe in bed. I soon got out of that though because I felt it wasn't constructive and it could have become too much of a habit.

FannyCornforth Mon 26-Oct-20 10:39:22

PPS. Isn't it virtually impossible to have an affair in the current circumstances? Has your friend considered this?

FannyCornforth Mon 26-Oct-20 10:37:25

PS. If I were you I would encourage her to contact her GP. She sounds very overwhelmed.

FannyCornforth Mon 26-Oct-20 10:36:01

Hello ExD.
Your friend does sound like she is mentally unwell one way or another.
I think that maybe her husband is retreating into his 'own little world' somewhat. He may be struggling to deal with his wife's strange behaviour.
Why do you worry that you are not very nice? You sound like a good friend.

ExD Mon 26-Oct-20 10:21:55

My friend's husband has taken to going to bed early and playing what she calls 'sentimental love songs' on his iPad. Things like Dolly Parton and Abba and especially one about 'you're my best friend' that he plays over and over.
She's worried he's got another woman.

This is the same friend I posted about who had several 'bubbles' when she shouldn't even have had one - but that's another story.
(I haven't seen her face to face since August but we talk on the phone and she's becoming a source of amusement as she jumps from crisis to crisis which is unkind of me because she's really distressed). She's a good friend and we're very close so her behaviour is quite worrying and I want to help. Would it be best to ignore this and laugh quietly to myself, or or let her rant on and on? She often ends up in tears she's so frantic.
Is all this a cry for attention or is she developing some kind of dementia? She's 72.
I sometimes think I'm not a very nice person.