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Will you go to family at Christmas?

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kircubbin2000 Tue 24-Nov-20 20:35:44

My son has invited me and my ex for Boxing day.After being in the house since March I don't feel happy about meeting 6 other people indoors and probably getting a lift with one of them. Ex is not happy either but he always gives in.
Are you happy to mix households now before the virus has gone?

suziewoozie Wed 25-Nov-20 12:28:30

kevincharley

Olive53 The reason the government is permitting this is because they know fine well it's going to happen anyway. Maybe you haven't had personal experience of Covid19? Come and do my job in the NHS and maybe you'll change your mind.

And the reason it’s going to happen anyway is that the Government has failed to lead.

Celeste22 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:30:54

I agree with most of you. We have done so well and thd vaccine isn't far away so let's hold on and stay safe to ensure we all see many more Christmases. It's a small price to pay & zoom means we can at least share in the grandchildren opening their gifts. We are going to try some games over zoom in the evening. Hopefully we'll all be able to get together in early Spring.

leeds22 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:31:48

No way. We’ve lasted out so long, we will wait for the vaccine.

Onthenaughtystep1 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:32:02

So BlackSheep46, it is “eat, drink and be merry” in your household?
Good for you!
Just remember that phrase ends “for tomorrow you may die”.

Metra Wed 25-Nov-20 12:33:27

During the first lockdown we all stood outside clapping our NHS staff and it made us feel so good didn't it. Well, that was the easy bit. Many key workers won't have a Xmas so it's time we REALLY supported them by being grown up and doing our bit to control this awful virus. The average life expectancy is around 80 so surely giving up one Xmas out of 80 is not too much to ask in order to save lives.

Olive53 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:37:41

Kevincharley, I have relatives who work in the NHS, some in intensive care, they tell me that it’s nothing as bad as other years when the Hospitals are overwhelmed with Flu patients and operations are cancelled
There are no more deaths as in previous years, we just didn’t hear about them
There is a lot more to this than a virus, why do you think they can’t wait to vaccinate us all, especially the elderly and the weak.
Plus the Pharmaceutical companies are not taking responsibility when the vaccine has nasty side effects, but they’re raking in the money
The flu vaccine took years to perfect, this has been rushed out in weeks.

montymops Wed 25-Nov-20 12:40:54

We are described as being extremely clinically vulnerable. We have both had Covid- way back in March/April- my family have all had Covid . We shall go to my son in London for Christmas Day. Maybe my daughter and partner will come- both had Covid. My younger son will be at home with his family of six- sadly we will not see them but will look forward to a big reunion when all the fuss is over.

Alioop Wed 25-Nov-20 12:41:46

Just my sister & I at Xmas. My friends have always came before Xmas for drinks& nibbles so we can exchange gifts, but I've said it's not happening this year. I'll leave their presents on their doorstep. It's only one year of change, we can go back to normal hopefully next year.

Beanie654321 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:43:02

Virus gone!!!!! News to me.

larry5 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:45:41

I will be seeing my daughter, son in law, grandson and my elder son who is single. . I look after my grandson two days a week so see him anyway and I don't want my son to be on his own this Christmas as he lives alone the rest of the year and will not even be able to go to Church as things stand.

My younger son is currently in Thailand taking a gap year in his 40s as his industry is not able to work at the moment but fortunately he has property which gives him an income. He hopes to come home next May or earlier if things pick up with work.

ElaineBK Wed 25-Nov-20 12:50:33

A few years ago, we held another Christmas day on 25th June with Christmas tree, dinner, carols, lights, crackers. We advised neighbours in case they thought we had lost the plot
We will do the same in 2021, when we can all hopefully get together

1942rc Wed 25-Nov-20 12:51:04

Beside being such a terrible year for everybody, 2020 is also the year my beloved husband passed away in June so I am on my own . I have a wonderful family who I will be seeing over the Christmas period as I need there support especially the first year without my husband . I think it’s up to everyone to make there own decision on what they will do or won’t do as we are all in different circumstances

CarlyD7 Wed 25-Nov-20 12:55:45

No, not this year. We would have been travelling 200 miles; there would have been 3 households, 6 adults and 2 young children, and my SIL does a marvellous traditional Christmas but we've all talked about it and decided no. We will, if all is okay, meet for a big celebration at Easter. Meanwhile, presents will be sent by post and opened over Zoom. Have given up so much this year that I don't intend to take any unnecessary risks when vaccines are finally on the horizon.

Grandmakath Wed 25-Nov-20 12:58:13

Quite concrrned about all mixing when we have isolated all year and so close to a vaccine. Daughter wants to come to us Boxing Day with Grandchildren, but they will have been with her ex's family (& extended family) the day before, and everyone hugging. Each one of those will have been mixing with others. How can I tell them, and not see our daughter and Grandchildren. Very worrying.

cheaton Wed 25-Nov-20 12:59:44

You don’t. Ignore these stupid rules made up by civil servants!

Susieq62 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:04:50

Just the 3,of us which has been our bubble all of the time! Not prepared to compromise our safety! I can do Christmas any time to be honest! Got this far so am not going to change things now !

Marg75 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:05:01

Our children & their families live 250 miles away and we have only seen them once since last Christmas when we met them outdoors for an afternoon. We sadly won't be travelling to see them, and they won't be travelling to see us as they work & go to school, and we both have some underlying conditions for our age. We don't think its worth the risk and are going to target Easter as a something to aim for. Better to have some patience and get rid of this disease.

Doreen5 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:07:46

No, we will be having Christmas on our own. The virus thrives on human contact so will wait for a vaccine before we start mixing with anyone.

tanith Wed 25-Nov-20 13:13:38

I did post earlier in this thread about our family arrangements well they obviously been chatting amongst themselves as it’s now been agreed they aren’t going to get together at all each having Christmas in their own homes maybe all go for a walk outdoors together on Boxing Day weather allowing. It’s for the best I’m sure.

Justanotherwannabe Wed 25-Nov-20 13:14:01

Nope.
Silly to spoil all that sacrifice, being shut down for so long. I might see my daughter and her toddler, I look after him when she has to go to the hospital.
My SIL may decide if they can't see his mother, who is vulnerable, then DD and family can't come here. If DD & family get together with other members of his family it's all off. There's too much chance of infection.
What a bugger

Justanotherwannabe Wed 25-Nov-20 13:14:59

To clarify, we're about 10 miles from DD, the rest of his family are 100+ miles away.

LizH13 Wed 25-Nov-20 13:17:14

grandmakath the rule is three households , not three per day. You cannot swap bubbles on different days, I'd save your celebration for zoom or next year.

Islecat Wed 25-Nov-20 13:21:26

Well said Olivia 53.

janipans Wed 25-Nov-20 13:30:37

My badminton club couldn't fit in a get together for Christmas one year due to everyone having prior engagements so we had Christmas in February! The hosts decorated their house just as though it was Christmas and we had dinner and pulled crackers and played silly games - it was brilliant!
I'm going to suggest to my family that we meet up outside somewhere to exchange gifts for Christmas day, then designate a weekend - say in May/June - when I will put up all the decorations again and do the feasting and games etc and have an un-Christmas Christmas!

NotTooOld Wed 25-Nov-20 13:33:11

We wont be meeting up. It will be just the two of us. We've waited so long where's the sense in perhaps putting ourselves and others in danger now? I wish the government had decided to take a firm stance and put Christmas on hold.