Is my sister the Grinch?

I expect that your sister was jealous that you had helped your mum and not her.
She tried to take some charge of the situation by speaking directly to your mother instead of quietly sharing the gifts.
Your mother would be embarrassed at having her error pointed out and made out it was what she intended.
Don't get upset about it, laugh it off, ask Sis if she has two necks. I know how these situations arise, I have several sisters, we had our fallings out as kids and often also as we aged.
However we always hung together. Life was often traumatic
when we were young . So as we grow old we know how to offer support albeit over the phone. I am the middle one and well into my eighties now but what a comfort my annoying bossy sisters are.
So hang on to your sister, pray for her and for yourself and your Mum. Happy Christmas.

You two are big girls now, you can ignore it or make it an issue, but it was nasty of her too pointing out to your Mum twice that she had made a mistake, when she’s obviously vulnerable.

Is it possible that your sister is also forgetful and had forgotten she had agreed to give you your presents from your mum. She may have been embarrassed to have forgotten to give them to you.

Yes she is. How nasty and - unseasonal!

Foxglove77, I'd really just laugh it off - then never mention it again, as they're just material things.

I certainly wouldn't want my sister or mum to realise that I'd be upset about it. It's just not worth the hassle. Life's too short!

Families for you, you wouldn't do that to them, but they do it to you.

despicable. Even ... even if your mum did say it, because she is getting confused, etc- any sister would have automatically given one to the 'other' sister. She could have chosen the one she liked best, and given the other. But a nice sister would have asked sister to choose, then have the other one.

Beyond words.

What a sad person she is. I almost pity her if that's the way her mind works.
She really is a immature sad waste of oxygen. Be the bigger person and dont let this get too you. She should feel ashamed of herself, but people like that never do, I know as I had a sister like that. I decided not to feel hurt, bitter or angry. I just walked away and I feel good about myself, as I felt the bigger person.

Poor you! But please ignore it and say nothing as if it is of no significance at all. Don't reward her selfish, childish behaviour. She should be ashamed of herself.

I don't think I have ever head anything so selfish and mean spirited.

Well this Christmas I think you should beautifully gift wrap several wonderful boxes, all empty, including your sister's favourite chocolates box. Make sure they feel a bit weighty as if presents are actually inside. Inside I think you should put only little notes eg an empty spirit box with a note saying "Mean Spirit" etc. I'm sure you can come up with something that will suit her.

Buy yourself some treats instead.

Can she wear two necklaces at once?

Does silver go with a brass neck.

Did she recycle the other set of presents.

Horrible woman.

Can you manage to get both presents this year to even things up?!

How mean. Wonder what she did with the duplicates. My friend's sister refused to recognise their Mum was getting confused, maybe this sister is the same.

Beyond selfish.
And smug with it.

How old is she? Has she ever displayed such bizarre behaviour before?

It is quite common for people with memory problems not to admit they have made a mistake, my Grandad would do it all the time. One year he completely missed my sister out and nothing would make him admit he had forgotten her even though she had always been his favourite. I think it is sad that your sister hasn't got the generosity of spirit to either give you the presents or give you something to replace the presents you didn't get. Shame on her.

Good job we can choose friends not family. I would put your sister on ebay someone may like her!

Thanks for all for the comments, her behaviour was hurtful. My sister is the youngest of 4 siblings and has always been my Mums favourite.

Of course I wouldn't hurt my Mum by saying what happened, but writing it down just got it off my chest.

Be kind everyone and Merry Christmas

This is incredibly nasty and makes me feel I need to ask you a distressing question.

If your mother is so forgetful, who has a power of attorney on her behalf?

Frankly, if the answer is your sister, there is much more hurt in store for you.

If no-one in the family is authorised to act on your mother's behalf if it ever becomes necessary, now is the time to do something about that.

Having a forgetful mother AND blessed with a' grinch' of a sister I hardly think your dear mum would have noticed were sis to have given you at least one of the boxes of chocolates.

I agree with Nannan, of course Mum would say she meant it, rather than admit she was a bit confused. Doesn’t reflect well on your sister.

What an awful thing to do to you Foxglove. Why tell you in the first place of she wasn't going to give them to you. She doesn't sound like a nice person

Your sister is a bitch. Buy her a bunch of sour grapes for Christmas.

When my Gran.had alzimers she gave all of my sisters £100 but one sister was given £100 twice. My Gran was confused. My sister never handed over the £100 to me. One of my.othet sisters mentioned it toy Auntie and she was furious with sister who got £200. My Auntie gave me £100 herself. Back on those days forty years ago that was quite a lot of money. Wheny Auntie died she did not leavey sister anything but everything else shared between the other 4.

Sorry but she sounds jealous spiteful and downright mean to you.