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Do you ever wish you'd had more/fewer children?

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Sunshinemum12 Fri 19-Feb-21 20:56:40

Hi there
Apologies in advance as I'm aware this is a forum for grandparents but as a new mum I would really appreciate any insights/life experience you're able to share regarding raising children. Our DD who we adore is almost 1 and DH and I are not sure if we can manage a second child though also feel unsure (for her sake) about stopping at one. A bit of background, we live in the UK but both of our families live overseas, DH and I both have siblings but we aren't overly close to them,DH usually travels for work(the past year has been a blessing in that sense) works around the clock so is usually away for most of the time, I currently work FT but would work PT if we had another. I'm 36,DH is 44. I've found the past year challenging but not sure If it gets easier or harder as they grow??! Wish I had a crystal ball!
If you had one child (by choice) do you wish you'd had another, in hindsight or are you glad you stuck with one? Many thanks in advance

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timetogo2016 Mon 24-May-21 18:11:24

Two boys 15 months apart,loved every minute of their growing up.
Lost one sadly,but would never have wanted an only child.

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Soroptimum Mon 24-May-21 18:18:59

Erica23

I’m an only one and hate it. Always felt odd as if something is missing. It’s even worse when parents become elderly, the sense of responsibility is awful, you have nobody to share the care and worry. I have two children, which was just right for us, if we could have afforded more I would have like three.

I am an only child too and completely agree with you. The responsibility I have felt since childhood that I was my parents only hope of grandchildren, someone to look after them in old age, do well in their career…….I could go on. But I must say there was NEVER any pressure from them, I just felt it myself.
So I had 3 boys(should have been 4 but had a stillborn twin).

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