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The C word - and I don’t means COVID or Christmas!

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Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 11:32:50

Last night while listening to a news programme , my husband called someone a C****. I was furious and upset. Logically, I suppose it is no worse than calling someone a dick or a prick ( where asterisks seem to be deemed unnecessary) . I’m wondering how many men use this word , especially in mixed company, and am I being unreasonable to make a fuss about it.
I can’t bear hearing it or seeing it win print, so coming from my husband who is supposed to be “ a gentleman” .........

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 21:11:04

So who knows what words are spoken by those we think we know , in different social settings.

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 21:06:16

I remember that when I was young, a friend told me she had heard her father talking in his golf club, using language she’d never heard him use at home, and how surprised she was .

ClareAB Thu 29-Apr-21 20:53:21

With the current government running our country it's a word I find myself thinking a lot.

GagaJo Thu 29-Apr-21 20:50:47

It's a word that describes the female genitalia. I refuse to feel that this word, that describes my fanny, is the most disgusting, offensive word in the British language.

I don't use it. But if I did, it would be in a accurate way, to describe genitalia.

3nanny6 Thu 29-Apr-21 20:44:59

It's a nasty word and I never use it and nobody I know has ever used it in front of me.

I must admit once in a while when something annoys me and
I cannot come up with anything else I have used the F word
naughty I know but it can release tension some time.

Sara1954 Thu 29-Apr-21 19:56:53

I don’t think I have ever said it, and I’m certain my husband has never said it.
Actually, I don’t think I’ve ever heard anyone I know say it.
It’s a nasty word.

Puzzler61 Thu 29-Apr-21 19:25:05

Thanks for clarifying MerylS. We live and learn.
Sorry you got grief ?

MerylStreep Thu 29-Apr-21 18:58:33

Puzzler61

Is it the word that I thought referred to a “stupid, annoying person”?

Puzzler
Yes it is. A lot of people ( including here on GN) and ( I assume) using it in that context. I do. I once used it on here in that context. Never again. But I have noticed that nobody got castigated as much as I did.

Gannygangan Thu 29-Apr-21 18:39:12

I was never sure if this was a real letter or not.

lettersofnote.com/2009/10/28/we-all-feel-like-that-now-and-then/

However it certainly is a surname in certain cultures . With a K rather than a C.

We used to have lots of Bast*rds here as well. As surnames.

grumppa Thu 29-Apr-21 18:33:06

DiscoDancer75, I believe Eurex was something dreamed up by Brexiteers as a new and inferior standard of contraceptive to be imposed by Brussels on England’s manly c***s and womanly c***s.

The latter is a word I would never use in the manner deplored here, though I recall that Mellors used it affectionately.

And what is all this about Hastings? I cannot believe that Poirot’s sidekick would ever have employed it.

Georgesgran Thu 29-Apr-21 18:19:07

Not a word you’d ever hear me or my family use either. I seem to remember seeing The Vagina Monologues and being expected to shout out the C word. Anyone else remember or have I imagined it?

Puzzler61 Thu 29-Apr-21 18:06:05

Is it the word that I thought referred to a “stupid, annoying person”?

Puzzler61 Thu 29-Apr-21 18:00:45

Vile word, in my opinion (the C word)
I don’t think I’m familiar with the T word?

ixion Thu 29-Apr-21 17:50:58

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Many thanks Atqui - I'd never have got that.
Slopes away in embarrassment ?

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 17:45:52

Even typing that makes me feel bad!

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 17:44:49

ixion Imagine it was written as a text....C. U Next Tuesday.At least I presume that’s what is meant!

ixion Thu 29-Apr-21 17:11:23

I had a boss I hated who didn’t work on Fridays and I didn’t work on Mondays. I had a great time signing every final email of the week off with “bye, see you next Tuesday

Oops, apologies - clarifying above post

LullyDully Thu 29-Apr-21 17:11:15

I must admit I find it very offensive used as an insult.

However, maybe we should reclaim it as women, it is interesting that a word for female genitalia is the worst swear word ever.

I just googled it and it was first used in the 12th century in England, meaning a prostitute. It has a harsh sound perhaps that's it.

ixion Thu 29-Apr-21 17:08:34

Have reluctantly to confess that I still don't get it!
I have been biding my time, hoping someone might ask before me!
Sorry!

Rendella Thu 29-Apr-21 16:30:38

I really cannot bear that word. I find it horribly offensive. It always seems to be the worst of the swear words to me.

harrigran Thu 29-Apr-21 16:11:19

Never ever used in our house, likewise the F word.

BlueBelle Thu 29-Apr-21 15:19:04

It’s not a word i use or like but I wouldnt die of shock if I had a husband use it (not that I have a husband any more,so that would be a bit miraculous) after all it’s only a word I don’t really understand why it’s worse than dick or prick or any other word for a human bit
Why is it ?

DiscoDancer1975 Thu 29-Apr-21 15:08:08

Durex not Eurex, whatever that is !

DiscoDancer1975 Thu 29-Apr-21 15:06:39

It’s horrible isn’t it? I remember boys using it a lot when I was in my mid teens, ( so mid seventies), perhaps more than the F word. Then it seemed to disappear. Now it’s back again.
To our surprise...we’ve only lately learnt, that ‘ t..t, tw.t and t.ot’, ( hope you follow that,) mean the same. I called someone a t.at in front of my DIL, and she went very red. My son said, ‘ mum, you can’t say that, it means the same as c..t’.
I looked all this up, and while they still do mean an idiot....in America, it’s female genitalia. So we all have to follow what the Americans do. I’m assuming it’s still ok to talk about ‘ rubbers’ with our grandchildren!!, and not be told off for talking about Eurex!!.
My husband always says they are just words initially. It’s the meaning behind them that’s the problem. To me they just sound horrible. I’d have been upset too Atqui.

Urmstongran Thu 29-Apr-21 14:59:56

Gosh I’m slow this afternoon Amber it took me a while to get that! Probably your boss never did! Haha.
?

I was sat watching tv next to our eldest daughter a couple of years ago when Katie Hopkins was on. She quite venomously called her ‘such a f***ing c***’. I was shocked ?