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The C word - and I don’t means COVID or Christmas!

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FannyCornforth Thu 29-Apr-21 12:18:18

Anyway, more to the point, Atqui who was your husband referring to?
Was is B***s?

Emily49 Thu 29-Apr-21 12:18:02

FannyCornforth

Atqui it seems that your thread is morphing into asterisk pedantry!smile

It was more that I thought they were words that I didn’t know!

Riverwalk Thu 29-Apr-21 12:17:57

Atqui

Riverwalk I am guilty of a typo. Presume other posters saw the context and overlooked that!

I was Googling 'five letter swear words beginning with C!

At first I assumed it was THE C word but the extra * had me investigating in case there was another word!

FannyCornforth Thu 29-Apr-21 12:16:46

Atqui it seems that your thread is morphing into asterisk pedantry!smile

Shinamae Thu 29-Apr-21 12:16:26

Vile word...

geekesse Thu 29-Apr-21 12:15:31

Atqui, is your husband someone who uses language like this normally? Did he know you were present? I get the impression from your post that this is not the kind of stuff you are used to from him. If that is the case, and he didn’t have cause to be exceptionally angry, it may be a clue to some early loss of inhibition which may indicate health issues. Nothing to worry about as a one-off, but if it marks a change in his use of language, a trip to the GP might be useful.

FannyCornforth Thu 29-Apr-21 12:15:07

Cross post Emily.
I always try to identify my errors before others do.

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 12:14:36

Riverwalk I am guilty of a typo. Presume other posters saw the context and overlooked that!

Dee1012 Thu 29-Apr-21 12:14:24

I can recall hearing a colleague (very senior) say "what constitutes acceptable profanity depends on the context in which the obscenities are voiced, the tone of the profanity, the target of the profanity, the audience listening to it or reading it, and the precise words that are used" and that's pretty much guided me.
There are words that I don't like and don't use but that's purely personal.
I spent a number of years working with ex-offenders, some of them were "rough" in the extreme and had committed very serious crimes. Interestingly, a lot of the men would swear in my presence but never directed at me as an individual.

FannyCornforth Thu 29-Apr-21 12:14:01

Riverwalk I put too many asterisks in my lady-part swear word too, so it must be a thing.

Emily49 Thu 29-Apr-21 12:14:00

It can't be the one that rhymes with Hunt, as it has a C and four asterisks, making it a five letter word. Or have I got this wrong hmm. I thought that!
And also Fanny saying the word t***t - again too many asterisks grin
Neither are very pleasant, but there are worse things to worry about?

GillT57 Thu 29-Apr-21 12:09:25

Oh I too hate that word! I have been known to drop the odd F* when really angry and incensed about something, but I loathe the c word.

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 12:07:54

Fannycornforth “What I really hate about it is that it's seen as ^the absolute worst thing that you can call someone^; as if a woman's genitals are that abominable.”
Sums up my feelings exactly

Riverwalk Thu 29-Apr-21 12:05:46

I haven't led a sheltered life but for the life of me I can't think what the word is!

It can't be the one that rhymes with Hunt, as it has a C and four asterisks, making it a five letter word. Or have I got this wrong hmm

nanna8 Thu 29-Apr-21 12:04:25

I’d be mortified if my husband used the c word. This man we used to know, who had a very high profile in the legal profession, used to describe people he didn’t like as c’s with bars’ which I thought was even worse and I am sure if the press got hold of it they would have him for breakfast.

Nannylovesshopping Thu 29-Apr-21 11:56:32

I did think it yesterday when my car was hemmed in and I couldn’t move it

EllanVannin Thu 29-Apr-21 11:56:21

The fiercest word I heard in the family home was " damn " and I'd know that dad was upset about something or someone.

What I hear now is stomach churning.

cornishpatsy Thu 29-Apr-21 11:54:16

I don't use it but have spent a lot of time in Ireland where it is used often.

Each to their own, we all use words or phrases others do not like.

FannyCornforth Thu 29-Apr-21 11:52:51

My DH loathes it
It all depends on your own feelings about it. Don't take it too much to heart, you husband obviously has different feelings to you about it.
A bit like how people have different phobias... I'm finding it difficult to explain, I'm sorry!
I remember using the word t***t in front of a boyfriend's parents - I thought that it was just the same as prat or twit. It still doesn't provoke the same visceral feelings as the c word.
What I really hate about it is that it's seen as ^the absolute worst thing that you can call someone^; as if a woman's genitals are that abominable.
Whereas a prick or dick is just a bit of a fool.
So to sum up, I'd be upset too, but I'd know that it was probably an overreaction.

B9exchange Thu 29-Apr-21 11:50:37

No, DH wouldn't use it, and he knows I will walk out of the room if he lets slip certain other four letter words. I had a very sheltered upbringing, only coming across the F word written in graffiti on the tube and having to ask my DH (then fiance) what it meant! I cringe every time someone uses it on the TV, couldn't believe it the first time it was deemed acceptable.

Blossoming Thu 29-Apr-21 11:42:27

Not a word Mr. B or anybody else of my acquaintance ever uses.

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 11:33:23

In print not win

Atqui Thu 29-Apr-21 11:32:50

Last night while listening to a news programme , my husband called someone a C****. I was furious and upset. Logically, I suppose it is no worse than calling someone a dick or a prick ( where asterisks seem to be deemed unnecessary) . I’m wondering how many men use this word , especially in mixed company, and am I being unreasonable to make a fuss about it.
I can’t bear hearing it or seeing it win print, so coming from my husband who is supposed to be “ a gentleman” .........